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*abriela1993!
writes:My bf and I have sex. And sometimes, okk always, he cums inside of me, and he doesnt even think abt putting a condom, and neither doo i. Bt why is he not thinking, is it bec he wants to have a baby, or is it bec, he just wants to feel more. Hes 18 n we have only been dating for awhile now, bt he is respectful to me.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 September 2010):
 He doesnt use a condom because he is ignorant, immature, and thinks that if you do end up pregnant you will take an abortion, or that he can run away and just be with some other woman if you are pregnant. He doesnt not wear a condom for the purpose of having a child with you. He doesnt bother with it because he doesnt respect you enough. And, if you respect him and yourself, please do use a condom. Not only will you show that you care about him, but you will also show that you care about yourself! No pregnancy, no STD's, and awareness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): I'm shocked of how people are ONLY saying it's her boyfriends fault. It's not just down to the male to provide contraception.
He's being as silly and irresponsable as you are. I think you should ask yourself the same question, do YOU want children?
Why are you letting him do this? If he's doing this regular, you'll most likely fall pregnant VERY soon. Not to mention you could have any sort of STI'S.
I'd advise you to get a pregnancy test asap and get yourself checked out at the doctors. And if you're planning on staying with this boy (who obviously treats you with very little respect) then you should go on the pill or you can get free condoms from the doctors. At least ask him to wear one, anyway.
You say your boyfriend is respectful to you, but if he loved and respected you he would NOT be doing this.
You NEED to tell him if he wants sex, wear a condom.
No condom, no sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Never mind what he is doing, what are YOU doing?
If you repeatedly have sex without protection then you are choosing to get pregnant. It is that simple. Cause and effect.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 If he was respectful of you he would wear a condom. It sounds like you are not mature enough to have sex let alone have a baby. You need to get birth control, I suggest you get the shot because I'm sure you would forget to take a pill. Now, buy a box of condoms and keep them on your/his nightstand so you can see them and make him wear one for protection. What you are doing is irresponsible, either protect yourself or don't have sex.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 It's because he is a selfish arse. He doesnt care about you. If he did he would wear a condom.
If he had ANY feelings for you he would be sensible and wear a condom. If you get pregnant, it will be your problem, not his and he will walk away.
You have to be strong on this. No condom, no sex. If he doesnt like it, dump him, because he isnt worth it.
Do you want to be a single mother at 16-17?
Be responsible. Apart from pregnancy, you are also exposing yourself to all manner of infections and diseases.
Keep YOU safe.
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