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writes:me an my bf have been together for 8 months. an there is this gurl named nina that is always flirting with him. i think he likes her because he doesnt say anything when she flirts with him. i dont want to tell him to stop talking to her because they're friends but i dont know what to say to him. he knows i dont like her. but then he thinks im cheating on him. i dont know why he thinks that. somebody please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): i know what your going through.my partner will sit there chatting and flirtin with his ex's sister and completely ignore me all night..then when i said to him about it,his reply was " i wasnt flirtin and next time join in the convo...well next time came around and when i tried it happened again so i turned my chair around and blanked him when he tried speakin to me..that he didnt like...and the reason he accuses u of cheatin on him is because he wants to draw the attention away from his actions by trying to make it about you so you feel bad and think your over reacting..my advice..when he flirts again,simply get up and say..when you two have finished flirting..ill be at home ok..and leave.....i know thats what i will be saying to my partner if he does that again..
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reader, Kimaxsi +, writes (8 May 2008):
Tell him how it makes you feel when he flirts with the other girl. He may say but I am not flirting with her she's flirting with me, he's flirting b/c he's not being firm with her and stopping the behavior. He is still enjoying her attention, that much is obvious so you need to insist he be firm with her if he is unwilling to do something about this, then it may be that the best thing for you is to leave and find the type of man you deserve, which is a loyal man who respects your feelings.
Either he really believes you are cheating and he's trying to get back at you and make you jealous. In which case you need to have a talk with him. Ask him what evidence he has of this, why he would even say this about you, and if he can't actually come up with anything then he's just saying this to make you feel bad, so your guilt will keep you from commenting on his own indiscretions. If he has real reasons to suspect it, he heard something, something you did that he misunderstood you can clear this up.
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