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writes:Hi I've spoken to you previously about man who was fwb but then seemed to want more then disappeared.Anyhow I am confused , have been seeing him lots , last six nights in row. He initiated was lovely , cuddled , spooned ,he was nude . thing is although he cuddles me he never kisses me and hasn't tried to initiate sex . when I asked he said to stop pushing things . so have said no more but I don't get why the no kisses ? So confused Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2016): Thank you for replying , I'm so confused by him . we have slept together in past like three years ago but not since the 'seeing eachother' thing . I feel quite rejected and I find no kissing wierd . he hugs and cuddles but to be honest is quiet anyway . I do adore him but feel like perhaps wasting my time yet when I brought it up fee weeks ago he said stop pushing things .... Urghhh
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 January 2016):
 Sex can be very impersonal but kissing is very intimate.
When I was a swinger my then husband and i had a rule NO KISSNG.
I could do anything else with anyone else but KISSING was so intimate it was not allowed as per our rules.
ask him what he wants from the relationship with you. yes listen to his words but watch his expressions and if he makes eye contact.
DO not assume that sex will keep him with you.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (15 January 2016):
 This is just off the top of my head but do you think he might have an STD? Perhaps he doesn't want to kiss you because he might lose control and go for full intercourse so he is keeping himself in check.
Sometimes with a new partner it is a wise course of action to BOTH get checked out at the clinic so that any possibility of infection from previous partners can be ruled out. It goes without saying that condoms are a must with new partners.
If he doesn't want full intercourse would he try non-penetrative sex? Another aspect is that he might be confused about his sexual orientation. You don't say how long this has been going on.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2016):
 Could it be that this man is married? He may feel guilty if he kisses you therefore he just enjoys the affection he can get. You need to talk to him about this as am sure you want and deserve better than this.
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