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writes:my boyfriend went to vegas with his friends but when ever i txt him he tells me he needs to turn his phone off could he be cheating on me his pregnant girlfriend please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlet me explain he and i have been friends for a long time before we started dating than we started going out he and i have been together 2 yrs now.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (6 April 2013):
 As SVC said, you are probably driving im crazy. Asking him when he will be back is a tad clingy.
Chill out, relax and enjoy the space. How can he miss you if you are in his ear?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats the thing he always takes me with him to vegas so i know what he is doing and who is with but the last few wks he has gone he has gone byhimself so i hardly text him now i just txted him to see how his flight was and to tell him to rest and to say morning and to ask him when he was coming home thats it then he said i have to turn my phone off.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2013):
 I went away in September on a girls weekend. My hubby did not react well and the second night he started to blow up my phone with calls and messages. I had no choice but to shut my phone off it was making me crazy.
The information you have presented does not indicate cheating. How often are you texting, how long is he away for?
I think it's reasonable for him to get in touch once a day or so while he's gone but to be in constant contact while on a boys weekend seems excessive to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): It's likely you'll text him dozens of times out of loneliness and separation anxiety. You'll be wondering what he's doing and your hormones will drive you nuts being home alone with yourself and the baby inside you. The point of his vacation is to get away from it all. He needs some time with his friends and some male-bonding.
You chose this guy and you decided to have his child, so you must have based this on some level of trust. It would be not only inconsiderate, but pretty insensitive to leave your pregnant girlfriend home and not check on her frequently. He'll probably do that if he's given the chance.
Nowadays phones are used as tracking devices by insecure women to follow a boyfriend or spouse's every move. It's stifling and a form of a leash. You may as well make him wear an electronic leg brace under house-arrest.
Not exactly sure why he feels the necessity to shut off his phone. Unless you are given to serial-texting and calling every 10 minutes checking up on his every move. Then shutting down the phone is justified. He'll look totally whipped in front of his friends. Is he a cheater? You know he isn't. You just figure that's all men do when they're away from their girlfriends or wives. NOT SO!!!!
You should invite a friend or a sister to stay with you while he is away. Have some fun on your own, instead of sitting around creating nonsense in your head. If you're clingy and don't trust the guy, there is nothing anyone can do or say that will give you any peace. Thus he has to shut off his phone in order to find peace for himself.
Go out and get yourself some good movies, invite over your girlfriends, go get your hair and nails done. This is some time for you as well. You don't have to pick up after him, you can walk around in your panties and tee shirt all day,
catch up on some reading, eat weird (healthy)food, pass gas without being embarrassed, and just lay back.
Relax, he'll be back. The little one will be kicking and stretching to remind you that you aren't exactly all by yourself. He (or she) will press on your bladder and keep you busy running back and forth to the bathroom. Keep the phone nearby in case he calls or sends a text!
Rest your nerves, dear! When the baby arrives, you'll miss sleeping in and having all this time to yourself.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (6 April 2013):
Most guys when they are away from their partner, can kick back and not worry too much about what is going on 'at home'. If they are happy and trustworthy, they kinda figure that everything is ok and they don't need to be in constant touch. He is with his friends and despite what you want or think, he's going to be a guy. It does not mean he's going to cheat on you, or do anything to hurt your relationship but most guys do continue to look at other women because it's their nature!
Maybe your being in touch is a buzzkill for him, maybe he just wants to step out of his regular life for a few days and let loose...doesn't mean he don't love you or care about you, just means he wants some uninterrupted down time with his friends.
I understand you are pregnant and that could cause anxiety, women worry when they have a baby on board because it is a vulnerable time for them and they often feel negative, so no wonder you feel a bit edgy! Just ask him to check in with you a couple times whilst he's away and then leave him to it. If you have to contact him in an emergency, then leave him a text and I am sure he will get in touch!! Try not to worry about something that probably won't happen xxx
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