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female
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36-40,
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writes:Why does a guy who thinks you're great keep backing off? I've been seeing this guy for 3 or 4 months now and we really don't know each other that well still. We can go for over a week without speaking (I don't like to contact him twice in a row without a reply first). I've met and spent time with his friends and they all like me, he's always enthusiastic about seeing me and compliments me a lot when we do meet up...So why doesn't he want to see me more? He says he really likes me and sounds very nervous talking to me on the phone. I'm just getting frustrated at not knowing him very well after this length of time. I know he's not seeing anyone else, although he does have a lot of female friends who pretty openly have a thing for him...so I'm thinking maybe he's used to women being very upfront with him about their feelings? I haven't even told him I like him (I'd really like to get to know him more first to know if I really do) and these girls are saying they love him and miss him. Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (10 August 2009):
It seems to me that he probably isn't looking for anything serious. Could be various reasons, but you may have a commitmentphobe on your hands. When a guy wants a relationship with you, he'll want to know everything about you and make every attempt to talk to you. So, do what you're doing, take it as it is, don't get attached to him. In the meantime, date other guys and hopefully you'll find one that isn't confusing.
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