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writes:Hi, I've always wondered Why some of us think that black people are tough or cannot be romantic. I couldn't recall from where did I get that idea. My friends avoid black guys, they consider them harsh and don't consider starting a relationship with them. What do you think about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, silenced  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 I can't tell you why a lot of people think that. I know plenty of black men who are kind, honest, and wonderful to their girlfriends. And I know some black men who are complete jerks, insensitive, and only care about superficial things.
Saying that, the same thing goes for any race. I've always been surrounded by diverse groups of people and never judged anyone based on race. I don't understand why some people would think so when I'm sure there are equal amounts of black, white, latin/hispanic, and asian douchebags.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): The majority of people do not think otherwise. The few people in your social circle do not represent the entire population.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy bf is a black man and he's so romantic and sweet. I just wanted to know why the majority of people think them otherwise.
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reader, silenced +, writes (5 August 2011):
The best thing you can do is put yourself out there, be confident, and eventually you'll find someone who will give you a chance and want to be with you.
Don't waste your time on those that think badly of you just because of how you look. They aren't the kind of people you want in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): I've never heard that black men were tough and unromantic. In fact I've heard quite the opposite as far as the latter goes.Fair or not the reputation young black men do have is for not being likely to commit to a long term relationship. This belief is certainly given more credibility by the high number of black children being raised by single mothers and grandmothers.One such stereotype I can think of about black men is that they are well endowed. It's highly unlikly that this is true, yet I haven't heard anyone cry 'racism' because it.Most stereotypes have some basis in truth regardless of the race, gender, culture or religion. Being able to talk about them openly, honestly and without hostility would go a long way to improving relations among these groups.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Frenchie: your friends are probably racists. Obviously you're not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): i am a black guy and i am a total softie whom loves romance just as any other guy,all guys show this tough side on the streets but behind closed doors we are all cuties
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