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Why do so many women want to be in control?

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Question - (16 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 January 2009)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My relationship is great except for the following:

She's a real nag sometimes and it drives me nuts! She's controlling and it effects my self-esteem. Why do so many women want to be in control? Don't they know it makes us feel like less of a man? And then she wonders why our intimacy suffers? I hope you ladies read this one. Anyway, I'm so fed up with it that I've been considering leaving her, because I'm not going to live with someone for the rest of my life that keeps trying to control me or constantly trying to get me to do things her way.

She's moody. She's clingy. She says stuff like "Are you coming to bed? I really need you so I can sleep." And this isn't about sex, either.

I have to rub her back almost every night, and it's totally lame. I feel like I'm forced to do it, or she get's all "guilt and shame" on me, or just gets quiet because I haven't met her demands.

There's some other stuff too, but this is probably enough for you to see where I'm coming from.

Please help. I've been living with her for 5 years.

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A female reader, aunty_rach United Kingdom +, writes (16 January 2009):

what is wrong with a little romance? not everything has to lead to sex. sometimes back rubbing, cuddles can be amazing. she probably nags you because she feels like she is the only one doing simple tasks like house chores,etc. try and understand where she is coming from. maybe then you will realise why she "nags you"

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A male reader, Arianz Bangladesh +, writes (16 January 2009):

Arianz agony auntDear,

I can understand your problem. Many guys face this problem.

1st you have to understand your wife…because wife is a best friend.

She is the one who always wants to see you happy and fit…

If you face any problem with her then I suggest you to talk to her face to face.

Tell her everything you feel bad and also good…

Don’t feel sad or upset to rub her back…because you’re helping her to have comfort.

Nothing to feel you down from MAN position…

If she misbehave or talk like ordering you then you should tell her that. Because maybe she is not getting your mind…

Best of luck

Take care

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