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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Why do I attract older guys, in relationships? Is there a certain vibe I give off or is there a certain look I have that attracts men to cheat? I'm not saying I'm looking for a commitment from anyone. In reality, I don't want a relationship at all right now. But if a guy approaches me, I won't rule it out. The men that do approach are often men that are in long-term relationships, sometimes even with kids. Might I add, I am tempted to follow-through and I have a time or two, because they're good-looking guys. I know that getting involved with a guy like this only ends badly, and I've felt the pain, but like I said, at the moment my emotions are removed from any potentials. I can say I don't care, but what I do care about is why I attract these kinds of men.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 May 2013):
 I would guess that the key to your question is, that you spend time in places where such "older" men are typically found... AND - regardless of where you are... that you make eye contact with older men, moreso than you do with men your age and younger......
From your submittal, it's obvious that you would like to have something going with a more age-appropriate guy.. BUT, that you are getting attention from those "age-INappropriate" guys...
You can help yourself by being careful as to which guys you have/make any contact with.... either tacit, implied or actual....
Good luck....
P.S. Here's a hint: We older guys... all of whom would crave to have a cute "young thing" for a toy.... tend to be much bolder than the young guys who you really KNOW are the "right" ones for you......
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2013): You are attracted to them as much as they are attracted to you. Of course you are putting out a vibe that gives them some sort of green light that you are interested. Maybe when you see men with a ring on his finger and a baby stroller you start flirting with them.
Just like gay men have gaydar, you have some sort of radar of your own that picks out this type of man. Why? I don't know. But clearly you are seeking them out as much as they seek your type out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2013): Well, every girl is different. Each girl attracts a certain group of males more than the others.
Mature men have different standards than young guys. While a young guy is attracted to the looks of a girl, older men look for a female who is emotionally stable, smart, and independent.
So I'd say you have some or all of those values that older men can easily notice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2013): HI When you give the impression that you're free and single and wanting to mingle many married men and older guys will be attracted to it, because your a safe bet . They know you won't mind and to be honest it's wrong. YOU may be single, but knowing they are not and still going ahead with it because there good looking guys will hurt you and backfire for three reasons one day you will fall inlove with one of these guys and they will NOT leave their wife and kids for you.....2) these women who are not aware of their husbands sleeping around will get hurt by all this and could break up a happy family home regardless of weather they (the husbands) don't care at the time you should, because you know.) when you do finally meet the ONE you won't OR you will find it very hard to trust 100%, as you will never know if YOUR husband will be doing the same behind your back, as what goes around comes around. If your happy being single and enjoying a good sex life too find single guys, don't come across so up for it. Then you will start to notice that these older married guys will back off.
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