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writes:hi well its been the worst 5 weeks of my life my husband has left me and im so sad angry hurt god too many feelings to say i love him very much and just want to talk to him hes been gone 5 weeks it was a shock we had only just been back off holiday 2 weeks theres another woman involved but that was just has much has a shock we had a row he went to stay at his mothers and 10 days later hes in bed with someone else he tells me he doesnt love me anymore which is really hurtfull in 5 weeks ive seen him once for 30 minutes i just wish i could understand why and want to get rid of the hurt Reply to this Question |
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reader, queenie74 +, writes (9 May 2008):
hi i know how you feel as my partner of 7 and a half years left me on the 22nd of april 2008 as we had a small row but nothing serious, he never came home and left all his belongings here and moved in with a woman who lives 2 roads away from me and he slept with her 4 days later and he told me it was my own fault and we havent spoken since. We also have 2 children together aged 3 years and a baby aged 8 months and he hasnt been to see them. It hurts so much as i feel so lost and alone as i moved 240 miles away from family and friends to live with him and right now life seems pointless so i understand your pain as everyday i cry as i cant believe he has done this to us so please remember you are not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Men can switch their emotions on and off so easily. You have to stay one step ahead, whatever you do, dont contact him. let him see what hes missing when it all goes wrong (and it will) he'll be back, but when he does, make him suffer (subtly) never trust him again for one.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 aww everyone will be feeling for you.
It's a very hurtfull thing your husband has done and there's no excuse for his acttions what makes a man change his feelings and jump in to bed with another woman is a mith.
But he could have being depressed and sometimes people do things there not sure how or why the have done them if he has depression he needs to see someone to help him through it.
Either his feeling for you have being lost and he cant bring him self to tell you or well hes a silly man.
Go see your doctor as you may be going through depression as it's a very hard time for you he should be able to give you someting that can help ease the pain. As for him leave him try not to contact him as you will only get more and more upset.
Good look hunni xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I totally understand what you are going through, having been through all those terrible emotions myself. My husband did the same over 20 years ago and it was awful. I am married again now to a wonderful man, you never think you will be happy again, but you will. The trouble with men who have been married for years is that they cant resist a new fanny, sorry to be blunt, but its true, give him a while, and he might come back sorry etc, but dont give him another chance. Get yourself a new man,
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reader, IamLily  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 I am really sorry for you. I am sure he is not aware of your love? May be the excitement that every male wants is lacking in his life. Have you ever acted as a ornstar in your bedroom. If no, then try doing it once. He will be back.Also you may send this link that will teach him,How to win Heart of your Wife:http://www.howtowin.in/free-books/how-to-win-heart-of-your-wife/index.html
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reader, Guru1  +, writes (17 April 2008):
You poor thing, you sound absolutely distraught. It's anybody's guess why he left you but obviously you didn't see it coming. You might find this other woman has been on the scene a little longer than you thought. Some married men do this only to discover that the fantasy of a new relationship will only last so long. He may or maynot come back, but I think you must try to do your best to face this new reality the best way you can. However this turns out your marriage is in serious trouble. It would be wise to see a counsellor to help you work out how you feel and the best way to deal with those feelings. A lot of women blame themselves saying if only they had done more but honestly married people have problems everyday and don't rush out and start a relationship with someone else. Even though I'm sure you are not perfect remember he turned away from your maariage by going outside. You have got to start taking caring of yourself now and building on yourself so you have the strenghth you'll need in the long term. The hurt won't go away quickly it will take time, but you will recover to be someone bigger and stronger than you ever thought you could be. Thinking of you. Take care
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