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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupids, This may be a bit of a long one so I am sorry in advance.My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me yesterday due to the fact he had "fallen out of love with me" - The funny thing is the week before we were loves young dream... we did everything together shopping, cinema trips, cuddling and yes sex! - the only thing we had problems with was my mum not allowing me to stay over at his house and I am 22 (He is 21) but i thought he understood that she thought it was wrong. our relationship was healthy and we were both very happy. Then out of nowhere my ex stopped texting me and started putting 2 "x"s on a text instead of the usual 4-6. This is how I realised something was wrong as he only did that after an argument. I confronted him about it thinking I had upset him - he said I hadn't and that everything was fine!Then I found him making plans with his friends (which I didnt mind as I would have never stopped him seeing them)but it was for a night out in Huddersfield which I normally went to. Now in Huddersfield there is a girl who he acts really strange around (you know the strange that happens when you like someone). I clocked on straight away and asked him up front and he denied it of course I believed him. I used to see him a few times a week and last week I never saw him at all which I thought its ok as he might just want some time alone. We met yesterday and there was a weird atmosphere he was really quiet and distant, just like he had been when I bumped into him on the bus earlier that week. We had had an argument the night before over him not telling me the truth about why he was they way he was. Anyway, he turns around to me and says "you have been saying all week that you miss me, but I didn't miss you"! it was then I knew something really wasn't right as he always missed me and never spoke to me like that before. We walked around for a while and ever since we got together (3 weeks) was the first time he told me he loved me, and from then on since. I asked him yesterday and he said he didnt know. As you can imagine I was shocked as how can you possibly fall out of love with someone that quickly and easily if you loved them. Anyway, he didn't have an answer why. So we split and before he went I told him that if he ever loved me he would fight for me and that I don't believe he ever did love me. He told me he did... but how could he have! We was so happy... its puzzling - He couldn't even look at me it was that bad! and he never had an explanation of why! Any clues into what happened or why he all of a sudden acted strange. I think he is seriously hiding something ...
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 October 2012):
 Hi
I know you respect your Mum but at 22 yrs old you should be 'allowed' to stop over at your boyfriends.Alot of people have left home,some are married and have children by this age.Whatever her reasons I am not surprised it caused problems with your boyfriend.Is it because of your religeon?
It sounds like somebody has caught his eye or he wants to be free to persue another girl. He no doubt cared about you,he treated you well too but now its run its course,for him anyway.He has withdrawn totally.
Its not a reflection on you,its just how it goes.Ofcourse your left wondering whats changed but he doesnt sound like he's ready to give an explanation,if he ever will be, which is the worst way to end something.
All I can say is see your friends shout cry do whatever you need to.In time you will get over him.
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