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writes:Well i was in a relationship with an English girl for a year i was still living in ireland,everything was perfect we were so in love,we would see each other every month.The last time she arrived she was vey distant no hugs weird but the plan was iwas moving over to be together.I pushed the date back a few times as there was so much to sort out.Three days after she went home she dumped me all she said was she was not sure she loved me,i asked if it was some one else she said no,even after the break up she said she was still single.Yet looking at her bebo page she is seeing another man,i stupidly rang her and called her some bad names now we dont talk at all.The problem is im heartbroken i find myself falling into depression,i just wonder how much she lied when we were together and the thoughts of her moving on so quick leads me to believe she never loved me at all.I HAVE NEVER HAD A PROBLEM pulling girls as my mates keep telling me, but this was the one for me i have never felt this low my confidence is shot and the bad thing about that is i have everything i want in life so i should be thankfull why did i let this girl destroy me and does anyone think that she is hurting too i need to move on please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I know it doesn’t seem like it, but life goes on. It will take awhile but soon she'll just be a bittersweet memory. I just went through the same thing but to a lesser extent. I felt extremely depressed, couldn’t go to sleep, didn’t eat, and threw up i was so upset. I’m one of the happiest people i know, it happens to us all. Believe me it will hurt, but you'll actual feel a little stronger as a person afterwards. Good luck and stay strong.
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reader, help mee +, writes (3 August 2008):
help mee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of u kind souls who replyed it was very helpful,here is where im at now i think of her every day but i don't get angry when i think of her with her new guy.The only question im finding difficult to answer in my head is how did she move on so easy,does she think of me like i do of her,does anyone think it is a rebound for her or maybe she got fed up of waiting for me to move over,does anyone think i should contact her as we finished on bad terms as i told her i read her e mails very explicit that backed up what i already knew,long distance relationships are hard if she was just honest and told me the truth would could have been best friends we were like 2 peas in a pod.
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reader, catlou18  +, writes (25 July 2008):
Sometimes long distance relationships just dont work. It starts as a bit of fun and can end all different ways. When one of the people in the relationship starts thinking about other guys, like your exgirlfriend was, that would have been the first signs of her being distant.
I think though, this girl obviously wasnt intreseted in commintment, and took a quick exit. I would'nt pull yourself down over her, shes not worth a second thought. you sound like a genuine guy, who has had his heart broken, it happens to us all at some point, but it does get better and im sure you will meet someone so amazing that you will wonder what you were ever depressed about.
Why not enjoy the single life while you can? your only young and have he world at your feet? Dont waste anymore time on this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): So many of us have been in a similar position. If not anything else but the heartbreak. And it truly is the worst pain you may ever feel. But, and I know if is a cliche and if you possible could you would find me and distroy me for saying so, but somehow time does heal all wounds, if not completely then at least enough to move on and lead a happy healthy life. Best of luck.
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