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30-35,
anonymous
writes: Hey dearcupid..this is my first time here..but I just thought of this situation..and it always bothers me because I really don't get it..Oh gosh where do I start..firstly I want to start off by saying that I am completely over this guy even though he once ripped my self esteem to shreds...it all started seven months ago when I met him..he was very nice and kind..and humorous and seemed genuine..we were like good good friends because we had so much in common..we could tell each other everything...basically we are almost the same..and that was hard to find especially with me having a hard time in relationships before him...well anyway we were talking once and he had brought up a girl from his past who he was dating on and off...like 4 years in high school(like when they were off they slept with other people..and somehow found their way back to each other)..and I really didn't think much off it because he was seeing other girls before me..and so I thought that maybe he was over her..anywayz we got intimate but let me tell you...that we were only intimate once..and things were going good like I was truely starting to fall for him..but about 2 months after that he began to see his on and off girlfriend again...but I didn't know about it until I saw his webpage..this made me sad...so I stopped talking to him...and from then on he would be the one to contact me because I felt that he had to...we just decided that we should be friends...he would ask me out but I denied it because I didn't want things to lead to sex..which I know were probably his intentions...but we still were cool and friends...until I had texted him one day...and his girlfriend had confronted me...saying nasty things to me..(p.s. I don't know this girl from adam..)I know that he knows because the messages were from his phone.and he also told her things about me that werent true..and that was totally disrespectful to me...I was confused because I didn't understand why he would be all nice calling me and stuff and..then the next day when he's with her trying to put on a front...he hasn't called me since..and I've sort of forgotten about him and what he did but...I just want to know why would he do something like that if we were friends?...I knew that he was with her and I didn't even try and interfere with that..but she didn't have to text my phone with the rude comments she made and he didn't have to let her...I've told my friends and they have been a big help..but I want to know from someones elses perspective..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): leave him. he is not a good friend all he is doing is saying O you can trust me! and then behind your back he tells the world. Maybe even adds his own little twists and turns. So jusst leave him. Stop talking to him for awhile.Delete his number, remove from aim, facebook, myspace, xanga, what ever. Just block, delete, and ignore.You may get a message saying what the hell did i do wrong or something like what did i do? And just don't say anything because he knows what he did. You trusted him and he said yeah you can trust me but he wasn't so leave him behind and find someone new. you were just a rebound for when he gets back to that girl.
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