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writes:I am stuck in this relationship and I don't know how to get out of it! We argue everyday and it's just clear that it never works out. But why can't we break up? It's like, we break up and then a few minutes later we make up again. I'm tired of this up and down! Reply to this Question
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reader, Trackwa +, writes (15 September 2010):
I am guessing you are in a cant live with, cant live without relationship. You like this person thats why you stay but when you stay you dont like this person, thats why you argue. You have to be strong and if you really do want this to end, then end it and tell yourself there is no going back. Once the initial period of being away for this person has lapsed you will probably feel at ease with your new life and a lot happier without all the tension of arguing. If the question of 'can we be frineds?' comes up I would leave it a while before you even attempt to stay friends, at least until you have your emotions in check.
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reader, gaburial +, writes (15 September 2010):
Don't break up easily.Don't say it without thinking.chigirl said right :end things while you are both sitting calmly and talking.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I have a feeling you always end it during the middle of a fight? If you really want out, it is okay to make up and be friends again, and then break it off while you are on good terms. That way you have made a decision when things are calm and you are not heated up, and he will be "calm" too to receive the news. If you break up in the middle of a fight there are usually too many emotions involved to look at things clearly, plus once you patch things up it is easy to think that the breakup was only caused by the fight.
So, end things while you are both sitting calmly and talking.
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