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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I’m going to be 20 and he’s going to be 21 next year. The problem is all about my boyfriend and what people think about him. He was working with my cousin at home depot before he got his current job. My cousin told my dad that while she was working with him that she thought he was childish. He makes silly expressions and funny voices because that’s the kind of person he is to cheer up the room. Everyone at the job thought he was a big joke even though he was a hard worker. My boyfriend was even made fun of because he likes to croche in the break room. To sum up my problem I don’t know if I should tell him that he should grow up or say he should be who he is even though I think he can sometimes act like a child. I don’t want to tell him he shouldn’t knit because he loves it. I don’t know what to say because I’m a little embarrassed that he knits and he’s a boy scout but I cant stop him from being who he is. I love him and think he should be more professional at his job. How should I deal with this situation? Thanks to those who try to help me. I’ve never had any problem with him before and everyone brings up the negative things about him that I don’t see because I love him. It’s hard to hear these things because I get upset. Why can’t they just accept him for the person he is? I don’t want to change who he is.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2011):
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2011):
Actually staying in the Boy Scouts like that, stands out on resumes and college applications. It earns points with interviewers and puts him on an entirely different level. If I would've known that ages ago, I would've stayed in the Girl Scouts.
You can't change your boyfriend, people at his work can't change him. They don't have to like him, but they do have to work with him. It's best that you ignore these ignorant comments from other people. Dismiss them and tell those people to take it up with your boyfriend if he's such an issue. If you have a problem with someone, you go straight to the source. Not to their girlfriend!!
These people who complain don't do your boyfriend's evaluation. If he's a hard worker, then it will show in his yearly evaluation with a raise and thru customer complaints. He's there to work and help consumers with their projects. Not to make buddies with every fellow worker!
You can't make everyone happy and you'll certainly upset your boyfriend if you tell him to grow up. So just ignore what people say.
P.S. I personally think it's cool that he crochets.
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