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writes: My Dad has been married to my step-mom (kristy) for 7yrs....im 13 now...and still cant get over the fact that he had remarried. I cant stan Kristy...Sometimes i feel like i dont matter. I cant stand living with her. I've begged 2 friends of mine to come get me on my 18th b-day...but i've been offered to stay with my cousins. But will be going to Australia later after 18. Anyays...After 7yrs, why cant i learn to manage my life with kristy...she knows i hate her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): The only thing you can do is bring up your concerns.
You'll get nowhere bottling it up and talking like you wanna punch someone in the face.
After all, you really DO catch more flies with honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI tried..what ever i say always comes out with an attitude....But i rarly ever get like that. I dont say anything, i have an attitude... I feel i get treated differently because im not from her. I can ask for something, i have to work for it...i do. My other sistes ask for something, they get it right away. I got my nintendo DS because i was the 1st daughter to ask, and the only one (at the time) in the house that asked. I get in trouble for the littlest things...like being in my room...She said she'd get rid of my dog of 9yrs...my dog hasnt done anything.
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 You never mentioned why you hate her. Other than feeling like you just don't matter. Have you tried to get involved in a good way? Maybe seek out what the two of you have in common and make an effort to create peace in your home? I felt that way too about my step mom when I was young, but after a while, I knew that it wasnt good for my relationship with me and my father, so I made the effort. I realized that she was actually a very cool lady, we had a lot in common, and she was a great person to haveon my side. I could tell her things that I just couldnt tell my dad. She never replaced my mother, in fact, my mom and I are best friends, but she too, has a close place to my heart. You get what you give, and create your reality. Make the effort. If you can say you honestly tried your best to build a friendship with your step mom, and you see that she is still making you feel like you don't matter, thats when you have every right to say, "I don't like her", and it may be something you need to discuss with your dad. Good luck hon. It will get better, just put some energy in to it.
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