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writes:Ok so me and this guy used to like each other. I didn't do anything with him and rejected him and that caused his feelings to get hurt at the time i did not care. Back then he would have bought me anything i asked and do anything i asked this was in 2008. then 2009 he proceeded to call me boring then we had a big argument in church and stopped speaking for a while. we go to school together so one night he followed me home and we just spoke. he asked me to buy him something to eat i said next week and i did it probably cost five dollars second time he asked i said no then the third time i said yes it cost maybe two dollars. then on Friday at church i asked him for two dollars and he made such a big deal about it.i didn't even want it i just wanted to see his reaction. He took me and my sister home that night.He does work but is saving to buy a car and i know he sometimes does blow money. Now i don't know why i have a hard time telling him no. he used to bug me to kiss him all the time last year and it was no problem telling him no. I just don't understand why i am so lenient to buying him food and he makes a big deal when i ask him to return the favor. What is my problem? why cant i stop i promised myself i never would buy him anything again. but why doesn't he do the same even now we agreed to be friends?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 he is a user- if your friendship revolves around you buying him stuff and he wont return the favour then he is a user and is using you to get him stuff. i would distance myself from this person because he cares about his needs and not yours.
friendship is a two-way process and if one person takes and the other gives that is one-way and therefore not real friendship
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