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writes:I know some girls who tell me in hushed tones that they are virgins and not to tell anyone, its too embarassing. I know girls who look down upon girls that claim to have sex as sluts. I know girls who wish they hadn't given it up that early. Why? First off, all these girls are 15 -16. Thats wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too young to be worrying about being a virgin. And no matter what you are, virgin or not, they are always ashamed! Girls who are virgins wish they weren't, because to them its embarassing. Girls who aren't virgins are looked at as sluts and wish they hadn't given it up so early. Why? What is so horrible about being (or not being) a virgin? Why are people unhappy with what they have, no matter what it is? Its pure ridiculousness, in my eyes. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! Just to be clear, i'm not ashamed, im just wondering why everyone else is.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (16 February 2012):
 you should not be ashamed of virginity . you have a gift that you can only give , and have once , don't waste it. your friends that will be throwing away their virginity in the next few years will probably tease you, and try and make you think your uncool . but you will have something they want have , and cant get back again. its a once in a life time gift you have . choose wisely how, and when you give it away. don't give yourself any regrets to look back on in life would be my perspective , and advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): If women want young girls to be less promiscuous, then maybe they shouldn't be treating men like chauvanist oppressors for saying they dislike promiscuous women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): Hey there, Girl! There is no reason to be ashamed of being a virgin. In fact, people should mind their own business and not ask that kind of question of you. Maintaining virginity is a personal preference usually based on a willingness to abstain because of the fact that pregnancy is not what teenagers want, because teenagers want to finish their schooling, because teenagers don't have the money to deal with all the negative issues that can come from giving up virginity, because teenagers don't want to get married yet, because teenagers don't want to get STDs, because there are "fun things" to do without having sex. There is a time and place for giving up your virginity. Usually, that will be with someone special in life later on, either one's first love or one's partner in marriage or a relationship. Whatever, maintaining your virginity does not make you less of a woman or man, it does not make you less knowing, it should not make you the object of derision or of jokes. People who laugh at you or your friends who are still virgins are probably envious, because they are no longer virgins and they now wish that they still were a virgin. In fact, however, YOU and others are the smart ones who made the right choice. I would say wait until you are in your twenties and find the right guy or find the right partner in life and get married. But, don't let anybody tell you that you are less than you are because you are still a virgin. Tell them to "Buzz off!" Tell them you are still looking for the right guy and unfortunately (if it's a guy) he is not the right person (sorry about that Jack!) and that eventually you WILL find that person. Be proud!
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (14 February 2012):
 It's kinda like that whole saying, "The grass is greener on the other side".Especially with the media and stuff, being a virgin is considered a "bad" thing, but if you have sex when you're young, or with a lot of people, then you're a slut. It's just how society is right now.
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