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writes:what are these the sign of when i encounter these occasionally?i'm 17 and a female. WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT A TEACHER (FEMALE TEACHERS TO FEMALE STUDENTS, LIKE MYSELF) IS FLIRTING WITH YOU AND TENDS TO LIKE YOU? these teachers are both females and are good looking. they put several moves on me like touching me for instance or trying to sweet talk me as well as looking at me whenever they see me from a distance or i see them. however i'm too frightened to ask why they are doing this. although i do enjoy these pleasures from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe also moaned next to me a few times, like as if she is having an orgasm. from my perspective i think she did it on purpose so i can get her attention. i found it a bit disturbing.
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reader, dchard  +, writes (14 May 2007):
No sweet heart! I don't think it's like that.To be honest maybe you should ignor the gesters. If A person is intrested in a sexual way they will make sure you get the hint.Now you know when someones hitting on you,EXSPECIALLY if it's a continuous thing. What you need to do is build up some courage to confront them or her. Even if it has to be in a slick way. There's always a way to ask a question without being blunt about the situation.Me personally I would come flat out and ask. You can't get in trouble for it and you can explain why your even confronting them. Even if your response from them is "it was nothing like that."
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): It is all in your perception about what she did, in order to hug you closely, her breasts may have touched your shouder, so what? She moved away from you and stroked your hair like a mom, not in a sensual way, that is your filter....if she invaded your personal space and you didn't like it, then move away abruptly and say so, like with a facial expression and a geez! She then will have to explain herself or she may get the hint that you are not comfortable with her physical affection....and then you will have set your own boudary with her....you do have a right to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, she did attempt to lean very close to me once and her breasts almost touched my shoulders and arms, furthermore, i backed away slightly. Then she noticed how i reacted and then she went in the back of me and touched my hair, not like a pat, in a slightly sensual way. i was shocked when she did that. again i was frightened to comfront her upon this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): Not reading anything more into what you are writing here, I think these teachers have affection for you and see the possibilities in you for a bright future that make them feel proud of you and feel good about their contribution to your growth as a young woman.
I think it is very problematic for young people these days to try to understand sexuality and comprehend that some times people of the same sex fancy each other, and it is very sad when common human connection and respect for another is seen as suspect and that it has to be determined whether or not there is sexual innuendo there.
Our society sexualizes children in the attempt to sell product, movies and ideas, it sexualizes relationships between adults and children when it has no place in reality and every day life, and for this we pay a huge price in how we raise our children to be good citizens of the world. I am sorry that you are confused, please realize that it is not about sex, it is about your teachers educating you and helping you to become a competent adult, capable of making decisions and most of all the right ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): What do you mean when you state, 'putting several moves on you, sweet talking you, looking at you'. I mean, some students could interpret gestures, words, smiles, looks as something they "want to see' not 'what it really is'. SO use some discrimination here when assessing what is happening to you. Females teachers by nature are nuturers, much like our own Mothers, Aunts, Grandmothers are. They play a pivotal role in our education and in a young teen's life. I used to have an amazing science teacher in high school...who gave me an encouraging pat on the back and even hugged me when she found out, a family member of mine passed away. I never, never ever deemed her behaviors as anything but innocent. She treated all her students with the kindest heart and compassion. She was an amazing mentor in my life and in the life of many of her students. You really, really have to discern if these female teacher's are treating you 'inappropriately' or is it 'appropriate'? (something just seemingly harmless). I would hate to have you interpret something such as a pat on the arm or the shoulder as wrong when it was meant to be encouraging and supportive. A teacher's career could hang in the balance if you take it the wrong way. However, if a teacher is touching you in places that make you feel uncomfortable(private areas, breasts, butt, etc) then yes...please tell your parents immediately.
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reader, dchard +, writes (12 May 2007):
Well I think because your the same sex as them they feel as if it's ok to touchy but if they're feeling in private parts then you need to approuch her privatly if not then it's a friendly tpye of situation and just keep enjoying it. just remember it's where they touch shoulders, arms, hands. don't mean anything. lower backs, leggs and so on you might wanna have that discusion.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (12 May 2007):
 I don't think there's anything in this. A lot of females can be a bit hands on sometimes. I would ignore it though, they're probably just being friendly with you so don't read too much into it. You could raise your eyebrows next time it happens to let them know they've overstepped the mark and see what happens. At least that way you're showing your disproval.
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