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writes: im fed up with living the way i am. whenever theres a girl i like shes taken by someone else before i get the chance to ask her out, and whenever someone asks me its not the rite person, i no im only young but its rly bothering me that there isnt anyone out there 4 me , my mates keep saying oh youll find sumone eventually but thats 2 years gone by without, im so lonely! Reply to this Question
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reader, lauxx +, writes (7 August 2006):
 hey hun i have exactly the same problem, i never seem to find the right man/lad, my mates also tell me as i am yound that there is plenty of time, but when i meet lads they treat me the wrong way, and it always ends cause i crnt put up with it. the best thing to do is jus sit back and get on with your life and love will find you! i feel exactly the same my mates have boyfriends jus feel like i need some1 to chill with, lads i meet only want me for one thing like a trophy girlfriend and that hurts!! speak soon hun xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto wild thaing- i didnt choose the title it puts it itself
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): There arent limits on how many decent girls are out there. Some people at forty still havent found the right 1, my uncle for one, still hasnt married or had kids yet, and hes 43. u dont need to focus on finding the "right 1", u just need to work on ur self confidence(like wild thaing says) and when u feel confident enough about being with your mates, cos that's important, u will feel more confident meeting new people and such. Get out there more and keep your eyes open because for all u know u could meet someone the next day on the bus, or walking home or wtever. But it's not a hopeless case, u should find someone soon, just remember to keep an open mind,and keep reality into check as well. Much love x
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 "Why are all the good girls taken?" - those are the words of a quitter.
Work on building your own self-esteem and confidence. I know that my female friends like me because they find me easy to be with, and that comes from being comfortable in my own skin. I am very interested in what they have to say and less interested in hearing the sound of my own voice - no one likes to be around that kind of person.
Everyone approaches confidence-building in their own unique way. There isn't a one-size-fits-all approach, so I can't tell you how to become comfortable in your own skin.
Talk to your friends - the ones you really trust. Ask them to critique you, specifically in their perceptions about the confidence you project and whether or not you act like you are comfortable in your own skin. Part of becoming a more confident person is to take criticism and learn from it. This would be a good start.
As you can see I have told you nothing directly about how to find a "good girl". Once you become comfortable in your own skin you will be amazed at how people gravitate towards you.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): stop looking sweetheart let them find you go and enjoy yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): don't worry... you'll find her soon! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): There are alot of things that may be keeping you from meeting the right one. If you are keen on improving youreslf and enjoying yourself alone then others will pick up on that. There is nothing wrong with being single- take lonliness and learn some new things- take a class and meet people or do things out in public that you like to do- ie skateboarding, painting, whatever have you. Spend time on yourself first and try not to worry about other things. Im sure there are people out there- make sure also you are keeping yourself available, perhaps there is someone keepng an eye on you and you should be open to them as well. Perhaps you arent giving the right people chances?Theres alot more years that you could be lonely- two is nothing. Perhaps also you coudl be radiating insecurity or desperateness, or immaturity. Just be creative and focus on other things and things will come slowly to you. Also ask your friends- they might have girl friends that may know someone to hook you up with- be open to oppourtunities.hope this helps.
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