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writes:Ive recently got into a new relationship but suddenly started missing my ex.The ex and I were on and off for the last year of our relationship but things finally ended in June this year. I met someone new in August and instantly clicked with him. I wondered whether it was too soon after the ex but reasoned that I really liked this new guy and if I didn't break free of this old relationship id be stuck in the on/off rut even longer. The new relationship is going really well, I can't fault him and im really falling for him but tonight I can't shake off thoughts of my ex. He's not crossed my mind since I started the new relationship yet tonight I can't get him out of my head. Although we had a decent relationship it left a lot to be desired, we weren't really compatible and spent more time arguing than getting along yet we did share some really good times. Ive heard that he's found out im with someone new and is devastated but I don't regret my decision to move on for a second. So why am I missing him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): Hi just to let you know ... I fell in love with a guy after I broke up with my ex after a few months but was riddled with thoughts of my ex during this time too. I couldn't explain it, I don't know why just letting you know same thing happened. The thoughts went away after a while. I think deep down it was residual guilt and then maybe the scariness aof falling for someone new and missing some of the more safe familiar feelings.
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reader, peekn'boo  +, writes (3 November 2015):
 I think it's because you recently just heard about him and are thinking back to your previous relationship to try to understand why hiss devastated. The fact that you are sure of your decision, makes you want to understand why he still cares, maybe you feel like you missed something from the relationship and your trying to understand that. But I also think that you should put those thoughts aside and focus on the next step in your life aka this new guy. :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (3 November 2015):
 Boredom? Curiosity? Could be anything. All I'll say is that dont let this affect you too much and cherish what you have.
You don't intend getting back with your ex and your new Bf is a good guy so while its perfectly normal to think of the past and your ex, dont get it get to you. All of us who have had ex'es think about them from time to time. Most of us dont do it in a "I miss him/her" way, but just as a passing thought, mostly when something reminds us of them.
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