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writes:Who will want me now? My self confidence is shot. After a volatile six years of marriage, I am now a 30 year old single mom. I feel like I will never meet anyone decent, and if I do, they will run for the hills as soon as they know I have a child.Of course, I know that logically single mothers marry all the time, or there wouldn't be stepfathers. However, I just feel so dismal for my future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): If it helps, my wife was 30 when we got together, and she had 3 children from her previous marriage.
Love happens where it will, and if any guy rejected you because you are a mother, it wasn't meant to be and such men really aren't worth losing sleep over.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): Age is only a number it's how you look at it life doesn't end when things don't work out five times out of ten you may have been giving real love to the wrong man.Pick yourself up take them shackels off and dance.:)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 December 2012):
 Time for a reality check. Look in the mirror, are you a bad person? If not then get back in the game. You appear to be assuming that all men are selfish creeps(??) Well, some are but not all of us reject the idea of dating a single mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): US Stats:75% of Divorced people eventually remarry.43% of Marriages are Re-Marriages.65% of Re-Marriages involve children from a prior marriageand blended families.Currently- The Blended Family is the predominant form in the US.We live in a Society where the dating pool has more Divorced Men as well as Single Fathers. These men understand that a Loving, Family woman is what they will need, and not some shallow, high maintenanced woman.Seek counselling to discuss your feelings, worries as venting such things will help you get rid of the negative so then you can make room for the positives. Also will help you heal and recover from an abusive marriage.You take charge of your life- and that will boost your self confidence, self esteem. Your WORTH is just as valueable as any other woman. Don't get caught up in the BS of the materialistic, superficial 'societal norms' as really, they are nothing but a measure for people who are clueless about what truly matters in this life. FAMILY. LOVE. FRIENDSHIP. The things that are lasting- you have in spades.They will be disappointed.Who Will Marry You Now? The Loving, Family Centred Man that Knows How To Love An Amazing Woman and Will Treat You With Kindness. That's Who.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 December 2012):
 WHOA!!!!! Hang on.... Before you relagate yourself to the grave... think about: 1. your child, and 2. the prospect that you've got about 1/2 of your life left to live.....
C'mon, a setback at age 30-35 is a TEMPORARY setback... and you have ample time to look at where you are.... project where you want to go.... and (then) set out to get there.....
Good luck.....
P.S. Those guys who "head for the hills"??? .. they weren't worth your time and attention, in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): And I am a mid-40s single father! My life is far from over, and you have a long way ahead of you. You will find someone, just have some faith in yourself. The right person will come along and with him, your having a child will not be an issue. If it is an issue, then the guy is not worth worrying about. Children are precious - every single father knows that, and you won't have an issue finding someone as there are millions of single parents out there. Stay positive!
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