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writes:OK so the other day my boyfriend was going down on me and I noticed that he was masturbating while he was doing it!!This made me feel like crap because it's like, is going down on me SO boring and unsexy that you need to touch yourself to make it more exciting?I feel really sad and embarrassed and kinda self conscious. Should I be doing something to make it more exciting for him?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): You're taking a lovely situation and turning into some problem about you. Stop making it about you and enjoy the fact that he's really getting off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): if a woman was touching herself while giving a guy a blowjob, he'd find that a turn on! so you should look at it the same way
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Masturbating to many couples is just a part of sex,you have took this very much wrong and if you see other things as there must be something wrong with you and put your negative outlook onto him,that will be a sure way of killing his desire. I have insisted my guy does it and i tease him and talk to him at the same time,and like you, i have got a man who gets off on his gf. You are not a bit wrong,you are 100% wrong. Relax because he`s comfortable enough with you to do it.
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reader, TamyKarcz  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I can only agree with the previous posts! Going down on you made him actually loose his mind..so he had touch himself! Don't worry about it dear.. everything is perfect! ^_~
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Agree with all the posters so far, nothing wrong with this.Perhaps, the next time you are performing oral on him you should masturbate yourself, just to get an idea of why he might be doing this.Masturbation is a good thing as long as it doesn't interfere with a true relationship.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Ohhh noooo! On the contrary! Dirtball is right on the money!!!
Your boyfriend was going down on you and the idea of doing it absolutely drove him so wild that he couldn't help but touch himself! Everything about you and his going down on you drove him crazier than crazy!
If you were so boring and unsexy, he would have gone limp, not rock hard and losing control!
It's completely not negative. In fact, it's REALLY positive. He was getting into it BIG TIME.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (31 January 2011):
 You've got it completely backward. Going down on you got him so arroused that he couldn't help but play with himself. It's actually very common for a person giving oral, male or female, to play with themselves while performing. Mutual satisfaction. That's part of the reason why a 69 is so pleasurable!
You're doing nothing wrong, and you should be pleased you're exciting him so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Maybe he found it so exciting and sexy that he felt the need to touch himself? Could it also be a possibility that he was tryihng to keep hard? I know my bf battles to keep hard if his penis isn't being directly stimluated.... I wouldn't read into it as a negative thing :)
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