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*osesAreRed
writes:HiI've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretching and my stomach keeps going over. Can someone please tell me whats happening to me?Any feedback will be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Joelhard +, writes (21 December 2008):
Hi,
I also suffer with this. I have done for years and am trying to work out what it is.
Have you had any joy getting to the bottom of this?
Thanks
Joel
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reader, Manya  +, writes (2 December 2007):
That's wonderful! And thanks for getting back to all the Agony Aunts with this
update! It gives everyone hope, that love happens, sometimes in its own
time, but feelings are real!!!
Best of luck!!
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (22 November 2007):
RosesAreRed is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey just to let you all know, i am now currently dating the man in question and life is brilliant!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I learned a long time ago that it's always best to just be honest and say what you mean, and mean what you say. But it's difficult for some people to put themselves out there and say, "hey I really like you." because there's always that fear of rejection looming over us. But don't beat yourself up too much. Girlfriends come and girlfriends go. They may not work out as a couple. You may still have a chance down the road. Live and learn, right?
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (21 August 2007):
RosesAreRed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSadly, the guy has now got a girlfriend, I let someone else take him from me, I shouldn't have told him I wanted to be just friends, look what happens, learnt my lesson!
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reader, Basschick +, writes (15 August 2007):
It's hard to say, but I think you're on the right track at this point to just let him come to you. You've made contact, he knows you're interested, he says he's going away for 3 weeks. If you don't hear from him when he gets back, he's probably not that interested. Or he's "flaky", or he has more than one female on a string at the same time. If you do hear from him, just take it one day at a time and don't look too far ahead otherwise you'll miss some valuable signs along the way. Good luck!
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (15 August 2007):
RosesAreRed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thank you very much for all the replies. This guy didn't know that the house he was sitting opposite on the wall, was where I lived, until my mum told him, and thats when he mentioned that I should have invited him in for a coffee. There have been slight developments since I last posted a message on here. Well, I called this guy the following evening, after his phone apparently went missing, and he answered, I couldn't believe it. The following evening, I called him, so my number would appear, and no answer, when I tried later, his phone was off.
So on Tuesday of this week, I phoned him, first time no answer, but the second time he answered and I spoke to him on the phone, and I asked him if was trying to avoid talking to me and he said "course not darlin", and then I asked him why he hadn't text , and he said he had no money on his phone whatsoever, and I said thats funny, you got paid last friday, and then I got no answer back about that. I asked him when we were going for this drink, which he mentioned about when he text me, and he said in a couple of weeks time cos he is away for 3 weeks, which isn't a lie. I'm not going to call him again, its up to him to call me, he knows my number if he wants to talk.
Is this guy trying to tell me he likes me, or to go away and not bother him?
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reader, Manya +, writes (14 August 2007):
I think if he's sitting on a fence across from your house
that he likes you a lot! It sounds like you both like each
other. He probably did run out of credit on his phone, I
would believe it.
There's no harm in inviting him in for coffee. That's
not even really a date! Especially with your Mom there.
You seem very hesitant. Perhaps you've been hurt in the
past or something? Please keep in touch with us aunts.
I wish you all the luck in the world!
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reader, Basschick +, writes (10 August 2007):
It sounds like he may be interested but doesn't quite know how to go about getting to know you. Maybe he's shy or he's used to women making the first move (i.e. why he was sitting on the wall across the street from your house, expecting you to come to him). I wouldn't make a move unless you feel comfortable doing so. Your parents may feel better if he comes over and they get to know him a bit as well. I'm sure your paths will eventually cross and then you can see how it goes. Good luck.
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (10 August 2007):
RosesAreRed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help, however, there is a slight difference here, this guy asked for my number, and said he'd call, but last week, he said he ran out of credit, and now this week, he has lost his phone, he did ask my mum for my number again, but I don't know whether this is a coincidence, or whether it's actually genuine. Is he trying to tell me he doesn't like me? These are the vibes I'm getting, but I saw him sitting on a wall opposite my house, and he told my mum, I should have invited him in for a coffee, does this mean that he wants to be alone with me to get to know me more. Does this guy like me, or hanging me on a piece of string?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): You find him repulsive!! Ha ha.
Just kidding. Seriously, this is what's known as "infatuation" - normal when you meet someone you find very attractive but know almost nothing about.
Enjoy it!
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reader, Basschick +, writes (7 August 2007):
It's called love. And you got a bad case of it. Relax. It usually fades as the relationship grows.
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reader, Manya +, writes (7 August 2007):
I agree with Polly - you are falling for this guy deeply! I sincerely hope that he
recipricates & that you two start going out. This is the time to look your best
and maybe put some of your thoughts into a poem/journal... Be positive!
Also, if you feel sick you should take a long walk or run or bike ride, drink gingerale for your
stomach, and try to not be fixated, but think about normal things. Be yourself!
Best of luck,
Love,
Manya
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