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writes: There's this guy. We use to date but we broke up. Now he lives really close. We started talking and holding hands like couples do; we even kissed. Now he is saying he is confused cuz a lot of gurls like him. I asked him out and he said he would think about it, but when were together it's like he really likes me! He grabs me close and kisses my neck.I am confused. Does he like me or not?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (29 December 2005):
 Dear, i would say yes this guy likes you but i think he also made it clear to you that he also likes,and is at the same time interested in alot of other girls too.
You indicated here that when u asked him out he said he needs to think about it. Allow him to make a definite stance whether it is u he wants to be with and no other. Dont involve yourself with him until u are sure unless u might end up hurting yourself.
My own advise for now is to take him as a friend until he is ready to date u. dont bridge the stubject with him again allow him to come to you at his own pace. if he doesnt go get someone else.
All the best.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (29 December 2005):
 I think your new guy is really thrilled with the attention he's getting from so many girls, and doesn't feel like settling down yet with just one girl, whether that's you or someone else.
If he's like most of us (and I'll be he is), he never realised that he had any attractive qualities, until girls started showing that they were attracted to him, which probably happened in the last year or two. Now, he just wants to "sample" a little from everyone. Hey, it's understandable, really, even if it's not ideal from your point of view.
The reason that he's affectionate with you is -- sorry to say this -- because you're there, and because you want him, too. He's enjoying holding hands and kissing with you, because he's very likely enjoying holding hands and kissing, full stop. If there was another girl who felt the same as you, he'd be kissing her. It's more about the "thrill" than the actually person, I'm sorry to say.
If you're happy having a guy who treats girls the way a kid in a lolly shop treats candy -- "...a bit here, a bit there and, oh my god, some more over there!" -- then you're OK.
However, if you're looking for a guy who wants to be exclusive with you, then this guy isn't there yet and you'd be better off to go out with other boys.
Take care.
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