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writes:Alright, im in bit of a situation...Well theres soo much to tell but ill try to keep it short. Well my and my gf have been dating for 2.5 years now and im 18 and shes 19. Things started out pretty well, but they were going in the wrong direction. Due to constant sexual stuff she became uncomfortable with our relationship and where it was headed. So at that point we broke up. For about 2 weeks. After talking during out break up we desided we would give it another go and we would keep the sexual stuff to a low and have more of a real relatioinship. I was cool with this. Then time went on, things seemed to get kinda boring and we began to fight more and more, sexual stuff got less and less and we ended breaking up again...after about 2 weeks of not talking at all we began to start talking again, then about about 1.5 monthes total, we got back together with a better formulated plan. She wanted to keep sexual stuff to a very min and work on us so to speak. Since our last break up we've been together for 2 yearsish now. Over time we started fighting more, we had big fights and little fights, over nothing at all and she started claiming i didnt care aobut our relationship anymore and jazz. She always realized she was freaking about nothing the next day after stress and crazyness. Sexual stuff has been a not for 6-8 monthes now, and shes become very controlling as shes always been but its gotten worse. Also when she doesnt get what she wants, its generally not a good day. Most of the time i dont say anything cuz i dont wanna deal with it. Latly its been driving me kinda crazy. Shes very controlling if she doesnt get her way its not good and she gets mad over nothing, im not saying nothing in my opinion i mean i go to a friends quick to see seomthing and she says i lied to her beacuse i went to a friends quick instead of home, then claims i dont care about our relationship and she cant trust me and when shes in her mood theres no reasoning with her. So down to the point i donno what to do. I left alot of thing i loved for her (military) and i resently lost my job and am stressed about almost everything. She has basicly planed out future together and i become less happy day to day. I have thought about leaving her, but our familys are so close and she has such big dreams for us. Only thing is i donno if i like thos dreams anymore and i dont wanna break the heart of a girl i really do love but i dont know if i like what we may become and the unhappyness ill probably be stuck in. I dont wanna find out when its to late. If you have any questions about anything fell free to msg me and ill try to answer best as possiable but any help would be great. But do remember if i try to talk to her she generally goes into a mood were its almost impossiable to get anything thru to her.Dont get me wrong shes an amazing girl and i love her to death i just dont know what to do anymore....Please help
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reader, defeated +, writes (20 February 2010):
sounds like to me she is trying to justify something, maybe a reason to break up again, i'd be asking whats up with her(remember because of the internet, namely facebook, its been easyier for people to meet and become attached to others easyier).
something is goin on man ask questions and do some digging
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): It sounds like in order to keep your relationship going you always agreed with her just to get her to stop fighting.And when you didn't you broke up but she always knew you would keep talking to her and eventually get back with her.Why is your sex life to a very low minimum? That makes no sense. Sex is a huge part of any serious relationship. Point is if you don't agree with something or don't think that's the best course of action. Tell her. You don't have to be mean but simply say, "I don't think that's a good idea baby." or "I don't want to do that. I love you and don't want to make you upset but I don't agree with that."simple. If she loves you she will accept that or try to find a middle ground.It'll probably take her a while because she's used to getting her way. Your fault. But yes, if you already feel unhappy it won't get any better. Stand up for yourself and if it causes a big fight and she breaks up with you maybe she's not the one for you.Not breaking up because you don't want to hurt her isn't a good reason.
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