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writes: Dear Readers, i need your help me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 and a half years now and for the past month or so I've been thinking about breaking up with him... just because i have so many family problems and we hadn't been going so well, now that I've thought of it for so long in the end that, I've come up with so many reasons as to why i cant be with him1. we don't trust each other2. his cheated on me before3. he has an anger problem (it comes out sometimes, but not always and his never hit me)4. i feel distant and less caring about our relationship since my family stuff has been going on5. our relationship each day reminds me more and more of my parents ...6. just unhappy in generalbut thing is, when i'm with him i feel so happy and i wanna get married to him and such, but ....when I'm alone or near my period or whatever i get so emotional!but thing is, i got my period last week? sooo i dunno what this is but i just feel so up and down the past week, like really badhow do u cope with a relationship or breakup that will both make you unhappy? should i keep trying? or break it off, and if i do... what should be my next step?HELP PLEASE =(
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reader, redshoes83  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 are you scared to be on your own, or are you really wanting to be in this relationshhip? Its hard to tell. i know that if i'm honest i am really rubbish at being on my own and have stayed with boyfriends before, for fear of being alone. If he really makes you happy then you should stay with him. you should be able to talk to him about this and let him know that you are not happy, he will be able to help. `It mey be nothing to do with him....... If you say you are so happy with him then justt try being honest about your feelings any decent guy will aknowledge and try to work through your feelings otherwise,,, if not then,,,,you know what to do, how old are you? x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I think you should make an appt. with your healthcare professional to see if you could be bi-polar. The "ups" and "downs" mood swings you are describing and the drastic pull each one takes you to sounds like it could be something more than just normal hormonal swings connected to your monthly period. You listed #6 as being 'just unhappy in general' and yet, when you're with your b/f you said you feel so happy. It could be that your family issues are what's weighing you down, draining you of your ability to deal with other problems. Only you can decide if you want to break up completely but you are giving yourself mixed messages. Try taking a break from each other for awhile and see if that helps clear your head. Perhaps when you don't have pressure on all sides of you, you'll be able to figure out what you want. Good luck.
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