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writes:I'm seeing this guy but I don't have any feelings for him anymore. I want to break up with him but I don't know how to because when I try to suggest breaking up he just gets angry and upset and then says 'lets talk about this some other time'Maybe a guy can help me.. From a man's pov, how would you want to be broken up with? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Okay I'm not a guy but having been in this situation I decided to give you some advice anyway. You're not helping him by chickening out every time he says let's talk about it some other time. He's using this side of his personality to manipulate you. Sit him down and tell him straight out you want out of the relationship. If he uses his let's talk another time line refuse and tell him you're going to talk about it now. Directly is the only way to approach this one. Don't be guilt tripped out of doing what you have to.
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reader, Nico +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Hi, There is no way of a good break up or being broken up with/dumped. Tell him how your feeling and that you can't be with him no more, there is no point in being with someone you cannot love or give him what he wants. Eventually if you tell him there is nothing he can do to change your mind he will give up and accept it.It will be hard for both of you but you will both get through it and become stronger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Sorry im not a guy...but i had this same problem. i have NEVER been good at breaking up. the last time i did it took me 3 MONTHS! all i can say is make sure your sure you want to break up with him. Once you're sure then dont "suggest" breaking up. you have to tell him... "We're breaking up". Be gentle of course, but dont let him think he has a say in the matter. Once you've started off with it as a solid fact- the hardest part- it is easier to carry on with it, rather than building up to "i think we should break up?". I know its hard but its like a plaster, do it faster and its easier. But remember to be kind, and gentle... but FIRM. AND dont blame him for it, cos then he'll come up with things saying he'll change etc.... Remember you're breaking up with him, he has no choice on the matter.Hope i've helped :D. and good luck. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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