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writes:What's wrong with me?? Ive been with my bf for 5 years and although we've been having small issues recently were still very much in love. However whenever he does something nice for me i dont get excited like i used to. We went out to an expensive dinner and then he surprised me with a carriage ride in central park tonight and i felt nothing really. He caught on to my lack of emotion and it bothered him as well as me. Am i spoiled in a way or am i going crazy? Why dont i get the spark feeling like i used to? I feel so unappreciative even though i thanked him a thousand times and it really was thoughtful..help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Sounds like your not in love with him, though you want to be, because he does sound like a good catch -- and you don't want someone eles to have him. However, let him go. You're too young not to feel that excitment. You're not being honest with yourself, or with him. Let both of you have an opportunity to be happy with someone else. (Though I have a feeling once you dump him, you'll see that you might love him more than you thought, but you really need to take a break from him or you will always feel trapped and unhappy. He also deserves that opportunity for happiness too.)
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reader, rambini  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 I dont know what to say to help really, other than if you are fed up id gladly take him off your hands!! you are a very lucky girl, and maybe you are right and you are spoilt by him, which means that you have started taking for granted the thngs he is doing. it isnt even about the time or money, its about the thought. sometimes when people do special things too often, they cease being special and become routine. maybe you should organise a nice surprise evening for him, and when you realise how much hard work goes into it it may make you appreciate his efforts more. good luck! x
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