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writes:hi, I was wondering if anyone could help. My boyfriend moved out of my house last december firstly after sayin he was down then sayin i made him unhappy. We got back together and he says will move back when time is right. In mean time all his things are here and i.m left keeping a room for his sons even tho they dont live here. He has left all their toys in the room so i'm wracked with guilt when they come over once a fort night and they un pac all the toys again. . He says isnt great livin back with parents so why is he puttin off movin back here? He makes me feel as if its free storage for him and when i say this he says ' i.ll move it all then! Knowin that i got rid of loads of stuff when he moved in so would leave me with nothing. He makes effort with my kids but when came back said would be more affectionate etc but it lasted a week. I feel that if he loved me he would be here but apparently i'm never happy so he says. . I'm really just wantin a normal life i dont know if we will ever marry despite him proposin v early. . He cant talk he just shouts and is never wrong. I'm so confused . X
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Is sounds like this guy's head is all over the place and he is'nt sure of what he wants, maybe he doesnt want to move back in with you in case he starts to feel unhappy again, but if this is the case then if you make him unhappy am not sure why he is leading you on, maybe he just wants to take things really slowely but its not fair on you having to wait around for him to make his mind up.
May i suggest that you compromise and suggest that you give him maybe a month or 2 to make up his mind and see if he is willing to move in, tell him he has this time to make up his mind and by the end of it if he cant then maybe it would be best for you to cut your ties with this man, of course it will hurt yes and will take a while, but its better than being held by a string not knowing were you stand with this man, good luck.
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