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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have made my life so complicated and am now just waiting for even more pain.I was divorced in april - not my choice and have felt lonely and cry alot.I met someone who was married and as I was lonely and probably selfish enjoyed my times with him thinking if it wasnt me it would be someone else and his marriage can't be happy.He then said he loved me. My feelings grew too.Now his wife has found out.He works away and goes home on friday. He knows I will support him and help him in his new life, but I think he is scared and will stay with his wife.I know if he does leave, or she doesn't want him back, then he could do the same to me, but my feelings are strong and I will take a chance with him.I also think, if she doesn't want him to leave he will stay because he is scared and then i am history, and am preparing myself.I know his wife must be hurting too.I feel a mess. My life was turned up side down by my ex not wanting me and now the man i met won't want me either.I know I should never have got involved with another womans' husband - and I know i deserve some abuse and i deserve what i get.what's wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): I am the writer of the question - there was no question after all really as he told her he didn't want to waste all the years they had been together and thus make a go of it..I suppose I have had a lucky escape (even though i feel really sad) because now she has the job of trying to keep him on the straight and narrow and I don't....and I can meet someone (possibly) who gives me all he gave me,honestly and and openlythank you for your warning - you were right, if it had gone the other way...I am also aware, he may be in touch when he realises what he has lost instead of his marriage.
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Nothing is wrong with you except you were vulnerable. You are in a dangerous place right now. Start moving away from it. You are heading for a very bad emotional fall unless you take some action now. If you start to move, you will find out what his feelings really are for you. Or you can sit and wait, and let whatever fate will deal you.
Good luck
Richard
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