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writes:Can I ask if any of you had broken up with someone for some reason. Moved on...then met him/her again after a while and decided that he/she was the one for you? Did you guys live 'happily ever' after that? Note - u're the one who did the break up Reply to this Question |
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reader, bitterblue  + ♥, writes (5 June 2008):
 Surely if he was the one having been dumped, this arises the question of whether you broke up gently, in a way that did not left him with a bitter taste, with complexes or such and especially if the reason of the break up can suffer a relapse - as the cause(s) of an unresolved situation can return (in fact they were never uprooted) and result harmful to the relation. For instance, when you don't voice your concerns, your worries continue to exist and might as well sabotage the relationship through lack of communication. Therefore I suggest that being you are afraid of losing him, you should have a discussion on this topic, to reassure each other of how you feel. Occasional road bumps are not a predictor of future problems, once they are surpassed with faith and knowledge and most relationship paths are not always smooth but rarely. He may be fearful you will leave again or just stronger from that experience; regardless of what happened, he should be able to put it in the past and accept the new reality, and you as well. I am sure a good talk will toughen your confidence. All the best.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (5 June 2008):
 There is no "happily ever after" except in the movies. Usually when you break up with someone it is because something didn't work so getting back together is a recipe for repitition in most cases. If enough time has passed and each of you have changed through personal growth via learning through life experiences there is a possibility it could work. Ask yourself why you broke up with him? How all of the sudden is he the one for you now? Why are you so eager to make it dramatic like "he's the one"? You won't know until you slowly get to know him again and the problems why you broke up with him in the first place no longer exist in this person or in you.
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