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What's the best way to deal with this pressure from my sister?

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Question - (29 March 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 March 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, *olly9945 writes:

I'm so confused and frankly I feel bad.

A couple days back I went out to dinner with my boss(19 I'm 17) as friends and strictly that. I then posted about it on Facebook

Well my sister read this and when she came over she kept pestering me about it and telling me to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years and date him. I kept telling her no, I love my boyfriend, and only my boss as a brother. But she just kept pushing it and I got mad and said "I don't want to date a man who calls me fat" though my boss has never called me fat I assure you. I just didn't know how to make her stop.

Well I told my boss cause I feel bad, and he wasn't mad, but he's concerned about how my sister will treat him as they share a college class.

So now for my questions. What's a better way of making my sister stop saying those things? And how have people in this situation handled this before? Any ideas or comments on this whole situation are much appreciated :) thanks everyone!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntAccept that whatever you post on FB is "public knowledge" and therefore anyone who can view you page might feel obliged to throw their 2 cents in whether you want it or not.

So if you don't want to debate your life with other, think before you post, even if you think it is an "innocent" post. Because really, who needs to know your every move?

Just tell your sister to get a life and leave you be.

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A female reader, Molly9945 United States +, writes (30 March 2012):

Molly9945 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you Sage, your comment really brightened my day :)

Stepford, I was not trying to cause any drama. My thing simply said "had fun at sushi with ___ (my boss)" and nothing more. And she has done this to me before just because I mention a male name, even when I say something like "I hung out with so-and-so after school at math tutoring" and she pesters me the same way.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012):

You do realize that had you not posted all this crap on Facebook you wouldn't be going through all this drama?

In future, if you go on a date, or go out with someone just as a friend ... don't post it on Facebook. Simple.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (29 March 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntMolly: What you do in your life has NOTHING to do with your Sister.....

Carry on with your life... with school, with your regular B/F... with this guy who is your boss.... and don't give this whole incident another thought....

IF your Sister insists upon trying to encroach in to your life in the future, you may simply take a deep breath, relax a moment, and say to her: "You know, big sister, your encroachments in to my life serve no purpose.. nothing either positive or negative.... BUT they DO serve to strain that wonderful sisterhood that exists between us. Is there any chance that I could convince you to SHUT THE F*CK UP about my life, and MIND YOUR OWN G.D. BUSINESS????"

That should put this behind you (two)....

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