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writes:A guy that I see at my job occasionally asked me out a few months ago and at the time I was seeing someone else so I wasn't that interested but he's a really nice guy so I explained my situation and we still talked occasionally through texts and online or when I saw him at work. Well things ended with the other guy and I started talking to him a lot more the past few weeks and finally hung out with him for the first time last week outside of work. Well he texts me today and asks me "where do want us to be heading?" and I know I should be scared off by this and I am a little freaked but I really do like him so my question is.. What kind of guy comes on that strong, that early? Is he that desperate? Should I be running even if I do like him? Any comments are really appreciated cause I don't know what to make of it.. I'm usually the one scaring the guy off haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all the input.. The thing is we haven't even had one date or even kissed. We saw each other one time outside of work for for 2 hours and that's it. We don't actually don't work together, his job just puts him at my job, once a week, if at all. We talked about it last night and he says he had a momentary freakout and he also said how he rushed into his last realationship and got hurt. I don't know maybe its me but how much slower can you get then seeing each once in 3 months. He just gives the impression like he already sees me as his girlfriend which I think sounds strange when we haven't even kissed or had a real date. Either way, I do really like him so well see how things go :) thanks guys!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 November 2008):
What??
He didn't ask you to marry him!
He just wanted to know if you actually want to be his girlfriend or whether you want to see other people or whether you just see this as a bit of fun.
He's asking where he stands and I really really can't see what is wrong with doing that after a few weeks of dating.
How slowly do you want to take it?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): I would ask him what he meant by his question. I hate text messaging because you can misinterpret them easily. Perhaps he is concerned that he will come on too strong if you are recently broken up and the fact that you work together may mean a romantic liasion is not a good idea.
I am guessing he wanted to know if those two things were a deterrant to him dating you.....nothing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): I think it's sweet that he's put himself out there. At the end of the day if you like him and he likes you wheres the harm? Just tell him that you like him and see what happens. Lifes too short for 'what if's' so don't make him one of yours.
Good luck! x
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 i guess he still loved you, and saw some sign on you, that caught is attention, and fought, it was the time to show he's feelings, once again (i have done this so many times). the decision is yours. but i think is not desperate, he just wants an answer in all that mess of feelings. he's probably just exhausted, and wants a fair, answer. that's what you should give. not something like "let's give it some more time". if you want to say back off say "i don't want anything with you and would like to keep a distance between us". just be honeest and will meet honesty. nothing more simple.
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