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writes:I'm in a bit of a awkward situation, I've been thinking that if I just carry on it may sort itself out, but several months later I'm not getting anywhere fast! I've been sleeping with someone I have a professional relationship with, it's not right I know that because he has family. I can't explain how it feels like he is single, I suppose anyone who has been with someone married will understand what I mean. I would be happy for it to end, although I've made a great friend and he was there for me through tough times, I don't have the intimate feelings I once did for him. If it ended though it would be really uncomfortable for us to be around each other like we have to be, especially as it's always alone. But that's just one part, I have a very good friend who has told me he has feelings for me for quite a while now, he works away for long periods of time and I couldn't have a relationship like that. I've told him that nothing can happen while he is away and also that as I have something going with someone else it wouldn't be fair on him. The problem is I'm scared I've put him off for good! There is a chance in the future that something more could happen with us so I don't want him to think I don't care and have been leading him on, what should I say to him or both of them?Thanx for your help x
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reader, Midge  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Well I think its fair to say that if you dont have the same feelings for this married guy that you once did, then you should end it. No point dragging on the inevitable!
As for this other guy, perhaps you should look at being single for a short while. Let you get your head around things. Gives you the option to let things happen naturally with this other guy. Trust me, although when they are working away for long periods of time its no fun, and you will miss them terribly, it makes the time you do get to spend with them so much better, and so much more pleasurable!!! It makes it all worth while!!! They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and trust me it does!!!
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