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writes:Met a man on a recent holiday as friends he wanted more but although I did fancy him didnt do anything because I dont normally on holidays. We e mailed each other a few times and in some he has told me what he thought and got cross with me, not blaming him, but now he is not answering my e mails at all.Because he has been cross with me I would have thought if he didnt want to hear from me again he would have emailed and said so or made something up like i've recently met a woman..please lay off. Normally, I would think oh well game set and match but he is usually quick off the mark to say so IF he didnt want to hear from me anymore. He has got them because I sent an e card and it was opened! Could it be he does want to stay friends and has other commitments for the time being so is laying low (he is widowed) because knowing him I would have thought he could so easily make soemthing up IF he didnt want me to e mail anyamore. He has sent to the point ones before so would not think this would be a problem to him to say end of..... or he has met.......Could he be thinking things over? what can I do? if I made him cross do I send an apolgy one again?? Do i say "look if its game set and match just tell me????
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reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (6 July 2008):
 Hi,
Lots of tennis references here and I've spent 7 hours today trying to see if Nadal could win Wimbledon. Anyway....some guys just tend to disappear and that's it. It is a sort of male trait whereby they go off into their own cave and just simply don't contact a girl anymore. A man doesn't need closure in this respect as he takes it already as closure due to him no longer contacting you. So as a man, I see him as already finished with you. (it's his loss by the way!)
This method of closure by a man is rude and shows no respect to a girl but it is a male trait. Remember, not all men do this but it is done a lot.
I'm sorry for what happened, but best wishes for the future. As john Mcenroe used to say, your guy "cannot be serious!" G xx
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Why don't you just send him an email simply asking what it is you have done to upset him, and does he still want to be in contact (or whatever question you might want to ask). Keep it short and simple, and let him know if you don't receive a reply, you will assume he wants to cease contact and you won't contact him again.
The only way to find out if he's not talking to you, is to simply ask him. Then the ball's in his court, and if he doesn't reply, you will indirectly have your answer...
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