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female
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26-29,
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writes:Here it goes. I've had this close guy friend for at least 4 years now and when i was bullied a lot at school and cried he was always there. But you see, since we moved on to high school i don't even see him anymore and i try to text him but he seldom replies. I tried squeezing this feeling out but it just won't work. He's really popular and i feel like i'm falling behind him more. I want to deserve him. I don't think he's even realized any of my feelings at all. He's quite dense. I would like him to know what i feel but i just want him to like me too. What should i do..?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Oh, dear, I used to hate this, when one of my friends became distant. It was always so sad and felt so wrenching. It's even worse when it's someone you have more than friendly feelings for, too.
The only way to cope, really, is to make sure that you aren't spending too much time thinking about him. Set a timer each afternoon, and think about him for 12 minutes, precisely. Concentrate on him, what you wish might happen and close your eyes while you do this. If the afternoon is bad, maybe do this first thing in the morning or after dinner, but pick a time when you are alone and won't be disturbed.
Set the timer, and then sit, and think about him. Close your eyes and wish your wishes and dream your dreams. You should do this every day for about 3 weeks.
After the 12 minutes are over, then set the timer for another 3 minutes and do positive self-affirmations. "I am adorable. I am awesome. I have so much potential, it's amazing. I am amazing. I am limitless. I am part of this world. I am part of everything. I am life." Think of all the good things you are and all the good things you have done and all the good things you will do. Sit and smile at your wonderful self.
You may find that you get a big bogged down and bored in that first 12 minutes, so if that happens, start the self-affirmations earlier, you can always tack on the extra time you were supposed to focus on him to tomorrow's 12 minute time allotment. Just be sure to give yourself the full 15 minutes of focused thought. Either it goes to him or it goes to you.
Come back in 3 weeks and let me know how you did. I think you may be surprised at the shift of perspective you will feel.
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