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writes: I have a serious problem. my husband who i have been with for 13yrs and married 5yrs. 6yrs. ago then my boyfriend started seeing another woman. he lied to me and said they were only friends and sneaking to see her and getting hotel rooms. he also took her and my kids with him out of town when i asked if she is going leave the kids here. once again he lied. I love him dearly but I am not in love with him. is something wrong with me. I can't even kiss him like we use too. Everything has changed even the sex. He says i should be over it by now I just don't understand why I'm not. He says he didn't sleep with her but I don't believe that. If he kissed her and they got hotel rooms and he lied about it and said he also had feelings for her then all of 2 days later he don't. What i'm I surpose to believe.Why can't I get over something that happened 6yrs. ago. My marriage is really suffering from it now. He has really been trying to make it up to me. But says i should get over it and let it be it hurts him too. But i told him i have been faithful to you for 13yrs. and you have been unfaithful twice. Help need advice ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Chelesea16 +, writes (21 June 2006):
wow..this is a bad situation...In my opinion, cheating is highly unacceptable..i think your husband has to see where u are coming from and why you are still angry over this..you have to let him know that sorry isnt good enough.
Did you ever try marriage counseling?..maybe you can find out the real reason why he cheated..maybe he doesnt feel that you love him enough. Like you said, you arent IN love with him. I'm sure NO husband would want to feel that their wife isnt in love with them. Maybe divorce is the best if you cant forgive him..but i think that maybe if you two care enough about each other you should seriously try to work it out.
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reader, carebear  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 this happened 6yrs ago and you stayed with him i am not saying you should be over it( i believe some folk don't get over it) but yous have stayed together you love him but are not in love with him what does that mean? do you trust him? has he gave you reason to think he has done this again you really need to speak with your husband about all of this you say he is trying to make it up to you if he didnot want to be with you he could have left but he didnot try to look for the good and happy times in your marrage and fall in love with him again
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