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writes:hi, i dont know where to start. i was in a relationship with someone who was very good to me. we broke up or should i say i broke up with him because i felt neglected. He would make time for his family and friends but me. 7 months later he went to for a month indonesia while there he contacted me. It was exciting for me to hear from him coz i was still madly in love him. He came back and we started dating again. History is repeating itself, i feel rejected. He doesnt call or check up on me and I always have to initiate contact. I am tired of chasing after him, i dont know whether to have a clean break or just go with the flow. Sometimes i just feel the relationship is happening in my head. Should i give him an ultimatum to pull up or ship out?
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reader, lonestarchalk1  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 there's nothing wrong with placing expectations on other people to fulfill your dreams, but this is a tough place, I sense you want to be closer or more intwined with him than it sounds like he's willing to be with you, there is a difference in committment level, my opinion is, if you truly love this man and he likewise loves you, honor your love for one another, everything else will work its way out, however, if your simply fantasizing about a relationship with him that is non-existent that is another issue. We often see only what we want to see especially when it comes to relationships, because our need to be love outweighs everything else, best of luck
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reader, superali752  +, writes (26 July 2009):
i guess he's a careless person who like to take things easy... i suggest you just go with the flow but if u feel neglected too much and u get hurt then you need to talk to him about all this, tell him how much you love him and miss him more than him... tell him what is the thing he does that hurts you.. tell him everything, be emotional if you have to... maybe he doesn't mean to neglect u or hurt u..... if he still does the same thing then leave him because some people are like this.. they say they love you and they probably do.. but they take things easy and not be obsessed by their partner... its not that they intentionally hurt u.
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