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I don't know if I could trust that his ex is REALLY his ex!

Q.   I have been talking to this guy since last June (2011) . And since then, we've been through so much. I really really like him. But for some reason, I don't feel like I should be talking to him. His supposedly "ex girlfriend" has called my phone ...

A.   17 June 2012: Find proof to this catch him in the act! I understand trust is a being thing in a relationship but you have only known this man for a year even when you've known someone your whole life at times you will feel like you don't know them. But get proof ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is great but should I end it if I'm not attracted to him at all?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been great lately. In the past we've had a lot of serious issues (depression, SI, abortion, etc) and broke up for over a year. We got back together and even though it was a rocky start, things have been going well. So well, ...

A.   11 June 2012: Thanks for replying. All I can suggest is honesty and asking for his friendship. No one is perfect but with being truthful it will show your true colours even though what your saying will come out hurtful the honesty will prove otherwise. Good luck ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is great but should I end it if I'm not attracted to him at all?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been great lately. In the past we've had a lot of serious issues (depression, SI, abortion, etc) and broke up for over a year. We got back together and even though it was a rocky start, things have been going well. So well, ...

A.   6 June 2012: Wow I'm sorry but that is rude suggesting someone should get plastic surgery especially someone whom you dated twice. Don't we fall in love with personality not looks that's why we have sex not the other way around. I do think you should be hones... (read in full...)

He left me for his mistress

Q.   Ok i took my husband back after we lived with his mistress for 4months he came back for only 2 and a half months then told me he wasn't in love with me and he was in love with his mistress. She lives 1400 miles away we have two kids. Who he says ...

A.   6 June 2012: It's all in the heart. We love people and they hurt us or they don't love us back. Think of it like this he left you and your kids saying he will be close with them SOMEDAY. Well that goes to show he'd pick a woman over his kids, it's one thing ... (read in full...)

Dating 4 years, no sex in 14 months..I know he's cheating!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. In the last 14 months we have not been sexually intimate with each other. He stopped coming around and spending quality time with me. All we do is talk on the phone. I've talked to him about my ...

A.   6 June 2012: You need to catch him once you do there is your proof follow him when he goes out at an unusual time. Who knows he could be depressed.... (read in full...)

My brother told me that he hated me

Q.   I've just had a terrible fight with my 17 year old brother. I am 19. I've always helped him out, and have really been nothing but nice to him. He treats me like crap, and today he finally told me he hated me. I am sure he meant it, and I actually ...

A.   6 June 2012: My brothers and myself would fight all of the time we still do occasionally. He's being a teenage or maybe he has some issues deep down tell him you love him and leave him alone for a while. Goodluck... (read in full...)

Is this as bad as I think it is?

Q.   Is this as bad as i think it is? i have been on and off with a guy who is a bit older than me for 4 yrs now and there is the same cycle every couple of weeks..........he goes mental at me for sumfin silly and acts like a physco he'll threaten...

A.   16 May 2012: Choose not to argue let him think he is right all of the time but I'm sure you won't like that and you will want to leave sooner or later. Better sooner than later he has anger issues that you can't change you can't even get him to get help he's ... (read in full...)

Coming out as pansexual to my conservative father?

Q.   Hey guys. Just popping in to ask for some advice on coming out as pansexual to a conservative father. My mother, I think her views of me wouldn't change, as she's told me they wouldn't if I ever turned out to be anything other than straight, s...

A.   14 April 2012: Father or not he should respect your choices if he doesn't then tell him that he cannot force you to be straight you will only end up confused. By the way god has nothing to do with the church the church lies and tell your Christian father to read ... (read in full...)

We can't help our feelings for each other, but we're cousins

Q.   hi am female and having sexual affair with my cousin when it all started i was in his home for vacation and we got a couple of drinks and he kissed me first, i was very shocked. we usually ended up in his bed. my mind tell me not to do it but my ...

A.   14 April 2012: if your mind is telling you the opposite the than your body then leave your attraction is completely sexual their are no feelings especially when your mind is saying the opposite ... (read in full...)

What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul?

Q.   Hi, Just wondering if anyone (males in particular) can answer this for me. What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul or even the forseeable future. It seems to me, per the advise given be people on this site, that girls ...

A.   14 April 2012:  I think it all depends how you were raised. I've met woman who love their boyfriends that beat them silly and they stick around even though that guy has multiple other girlfriends. Whether it's a fear of leaving or being lonely they are all stuck ... (read in full...)

I got rejected by a guy after just one date!

Q.   I met this guy a week ago at a party and we made out. He asked for my number and I got all excited about going on a date with him. We finally met up last night - though I was really, really tired - for an hour or so. He was really affectionate and I ...

A.   14 April 2012: I'll be honest there are two things going on here which aren't the best choices for a relationship. I mean if you were at a party and you talked for hours even than the guy could be lying. 1. You are using him to get your mind off of your ex which... (read in full...)

I can't stop crying, I want my ex back!

Q.   I am crazy about my ex. We broke up last May because we were so far apart. Now we live 20minutes away. I've seen him a bit since I moved closer but he only comes around for like a week then disappears again. He has done this too me three times. The ...

A.   8 April 2012: Don't put yourself up for revenge there is no point in being vindictive. Just bare with it I'm hurting to right now and the best thing to do is don't date someone else just to get over another person also don't try and make him jealous tell your ... (read in full...)

Ladies: shaved or natural 'downstairs' on a guy?

Q.   Ladies thoughts opinions needed: When you are about to have sex/or oral with a guy for the first time and see his thing, is hair down there a turn off? is shaved more a turn on? or trimmed? also what about hairy thighs? shaved? leave alone? I am...

A.   7 April 2012: Men shaving or waxing their pubic hair is not attractive. If you have straight pubic hairs than it's fine to trim them not to short though but when you have a little curl in your pubic hair than it's fine to leave them or trim them.... (read in full...)

Why does it take me a long time to cum?

Q.   I'm a girl, why does it take me a long time to come? (how long is a long time when talking about cumming?) I have no idea what this is all about because I've only came twice and I never can feel when I do. The only time I actually. Cum is when he's ...

A.   6 April 2012: That's squirting I remember the first time I did it I thought I peed on my boyfriends finger and face now I do it all the time. Try fast sex bounce really fast at the same time he is. Or play with your clit while haveing sex or ask your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!

Q.   Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...

A.   6 April 2012: That's messed up he sounds like some rich bigot loser who sleeps with his second cousin to keep his blood line "pure". We live in a sick world I'd leave him he doesn't seem to bright and educated.... (read in full...)

Lack of contact from b/f is making me question everything!

Q.   Here is a little bit of what has been going on I lost contact with my boyfriend for month in November and I was trying to get back into contact with him we never broke up but he lives 2 hours away and his phone was messed up then his boss ran it o...

A.   10 January 2012: I will look toward the positives though.... (read in full...)

Lack of contact from b/f is making me question everything!

Q.   Here is a little bit of what has been going on I lost contact with my boyfriend for month in November and I was trying to get back into contact with him we never broke up but he lives 2 hours away and his phone was messed up then his boss ran it o...

A.   10 January 2012: Thanks for both your answers I am so confused right now. It really gets to me when I am all alone though I start crying I feel bipolar right now cause my emotions are going up and down. ... (read in full...)

Lack of contact from b/f is making me question everything!

Q.   Here is a little bit of what has been going on I lost contact with my boyfriend for month in November and I was trying to get back into contact with him we never broke up but he lives 2 hours away and his phone was messed up then his boss ran it o...

A.   9 January 2012: Emily20 Thanks for giving me for short and good advice I am still waiting to hear from his sister but I hope it is soon she hasn't even been online any how so I'm not stressing much. Thanks and I just realized he was an alcoholic but he`d never ... (read in full...)

Not really a relationship question, but is anyone else downright disgusted by feet?

Q.   Really weird question, but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there like me. I guess you could say it is sort of a relationship question if you tilt your head sideways and squint... But I have a horrible aversion to feet. I don't wa...

A.   8 January 2012: Then I think that you just don't like your feet in general. Some people hate feet some people like them. Are you self conscious about your feet for example do you hide them if your not wearing socks? I used to do that not any more though. Good luck ... (read in full...)

Not really a relationship question, but is anyone else downright disgusted by feet?

Q.   Really weird question, but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there like me. I guess you could say it is sort of a relationship question if you tilt your head sideways and squint... But I have a horrible aversion to feet. I don't wa...

A.   8 January 2012: I have to agree with Moo's Mum it is most likely a phobia. I love my feel I used to hate them not like you do but I would never show them to anyone but my boyfriend sucks on my toes and it tickles. Your missing out though with the foot massages. try ... (read in full...)

Lack of contact from b/f is making me question everything!

Q.   Here is a little bit of what has been going on I lost contact with my boyfriend for month in November and I was trying to get back into contact with him we never broke up but he lives 2 hours away and his phone was messed up then his boss ran it o...

A.   8 January 2012: Thanks for your answer but there was a lot more to this story his sister helped me go out there and see him at the beginning of December and since I didn't give them any information to where I was when I was in town they tried to get a hold of me ... (read in full...)

My Bf and I have been together 4 years. We have a child. But how can I also continue with the marine I am seeing too, and not breakup with my Bf?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend for almost four years and also I met a guy and I've been seeing him for about six months. I see the other guy twice a month, every time he comes to home, because his a marine .i really like him i feel he is the one, but ...

A.   4 January 2012: There is so much I can say but the way your trying to achieve your enlightenment is not going to work. It's clear you only want to be with your boyfriend because of the family and a relationship only on those terms is going to end up grumpy you can ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid my insecurities will push people away.

Q.   I have been seeing a wonderful girl since the start of November. We have went on about 5 dates, text most days and call each other once a week. I am 26 and she is 22. I don't date often, and I have only had one relationship. I have a tenancy to ...

A.   4 January 2012: We all have some kind of insecurity. Usually people who are afraid to get hurt have already been hurt. In order to let go of that insecurity we need to accept that hurting is apart of life but you only get hurt if you let it affect you. I'm not ... (read in full...)

I feel awful for misguiding the girl I plan to marry for so many years but I'm so scared to face the music but I also want to right my wrong

Q.   So, about five years ago I met a girl, who is now my girlfriend of three years, online and she lives in PA. We always got a long real well and eventually we started to play on the ps3 with eachother, because we were curious about what the other ...

A.   2 January 2012: The truth will set you free just remember that. good luck and all the best in the new year! ... (read in full...)

Why do my mates' girlfriends keep trying it on with me?

Q.   This sounds like I'm being paranoid but about a year ago my mates 5yr GF told me she likes me to much! But I shook it of and blamed it on the drink then 6 months later we all got drunk at a party and I tried my hardest but we shared a proper intense ...

A.   31 December 2011: I think keeping your friends is better then any girl. But if your relationship needs work try and fix it sit down your girlfriend and talk to her if nothing works then maybe it is time to split up. I was shy too and my bf's friends hit on me I hate ... (read in full...)

I feel awful for misguiding the girl I plan to marry for so many years but I'm so scared to face the music but I also want to right my wrong

Q.   So, about five years ago I met a girl, who is now my girlfriend of three years, online and she lives in PA. We always got a long real well and eventually we started to play on the ps3 with eachother, because we were curious about what the other ...

A.   31 December 2011: I somewhat had the same issue except I didn't expect meeting the guy and dating him 5 years later. Just be honest and say I got something to tell you and you may be upset with me but you need to know the truth. Tell her that you used someone els... (read in full...)

My family aren't supporting me during my pregnancy -- should I take up the offer from my b/f's family?

Q.   i am 14 almost 15 and i'm 26 weeks pregnant with twins..i am super happy and so is my boyfriend and his family..my family on the other hand..i'm thinkin..not so much..i can see why they are upset/disappointed but right now all i need is support..i ...

A.   24 December 2011: It may be best to live with your boyfriend's family at least try it. You do not need stress at a time like this. Best of luck and happy holidays!... (read in full...)

Why do some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings as they age?

Q.   Does anyone know why some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings, etc, when they are older ?. Is it because they have been on their own for a long time, and they get set in their ways ?. I've...

A.   22 December 2011: I think people of all ages have flings except more and more of the youth is sleeping around. Seeing as I am in my 20's I see it all the time people only go to the clubs usually for 1 or 2 things to find someone to take home and to drink. Some ... (read in full...)

Might I be bisexual and should I tell my fiance about this?

Q.   I've been with my fiance for two years now, and I really love him. Lately I've been attracted to this woman at work. I've dated women in the past, but always thought it was just a phase i was going through. I still find myself checking out othe...

A.   22 December 2011: Tell your fiancé you are bisexual and tell him about the woman at work. He may or may not like it. If he doesn't it's best if you stop flirting with the girl at work also reassure him you are not going any further with this woman. Not all men are ... (read in full...)

We're unofficially dating and he's flirting with another girl

Q.   I'm dating this guy nothing is official yet but I recently found out he has been talking to another girl using the same pick up lines on her as he used on me and been flirty and offering to meet up. Am I making a big deal of this ? Also should I...

A.   22 December 2011: Wait until you are dating to be concerned about this. Been there done that my boyfriend stopped all communications with a girl that was flirting with him mind you that had a long story behind it which Im not going to get into.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend drinks all the time but I am scared to talk to him about it. What should I do?

Q.   Every single day I text my boyfriend all that comes out of his mouth.. "I am high." Or... "I am drunk." And I hate it.. I want to tell him, "Don't talk to me until your sober, and if you don't stop I won't see you anymore." But I don't want to say ...

A.   22 December 2011: Your not going to be a jerk you care about him. I told my bf I didn't like his drinking when he was drinking everyday he seemed upset but you know what its been 3 months since I brought it up and now he is hardly drinking. All you can do is menti... (read in full...)

Should I pursue a woman in an open relationship?

Q.   I met this girl a few months ago and we really clicked. All the vibes were great and we are really close. So close that shes my neighbor! The only problem is, shes in an open relationship with this guy who is in the navy. He doesnt get discharg...

A.   22 December 2011: Avoid this situation how do you know for sure of what she is saying is true. she probably just wants sex. Body language only tells you a few things but intelligence will show a lot more. Plus you know how hard it would be to date someone 3000 miles ... (read in full...)

It's Driving me crazy, I cant get hold of my boyfriend! Am I Over reacting?

Q.   My boyfriend who i'm in a ldr with has ignored my phone calls all day. He phoned me last night and was fine. Today I try calling him 3 times and he hasnt answered. I know he has no credit to call or text me back. But its driving me crazy that I...

A.   22 December 2011: You are over reacting. Since everything was fine before he wasn't going trough any home issues, job issues, out of town issues. It could be anything I haven't heard from my BF who is LD in 3 days I am worried cause a bunch of unreasonable things ... (read in full...)

Found out my fiance has been cheating....should I go ahead with the wedding or not?

Q.   Im about to get married with my bf of 2years. Ours was a long distance relationship for a year as we are both working abroad. Communication had been constant, almost everyday we did get in touch. Never did i doubted my bf's love and sincerity ...

A.   22 December 2011: None of use can make up your mind weather to do it or not. I think it would be best if you tell him to admit it cause you know it's the truth. If he doesn't want to confess then be honest with him about how you feel you should be aloud the truth ... (read in full...)

Have you ever gotten to the end of your teenaged years and realized you didn't do anything?

Q.   I'm actually quite annoyed at myself, i'm 19 and i don't feel like i've lived my teenage life to the fullest! I haven't slept with anyone.. STILL. I haven't experimented or at least tried one drug, something even small such as weed. I haven't had a ...

A.   22 December 2011: This is from my point of view since I've tried drugs and had sex not sleeping around but I've had sex but have also had it done without my consent. I hate thinking about it. I also had tried many drugs weed when I was 8, cocaine both forms, ecstasy, ... (read in full...)

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