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writes:I've been with this guy for 7 years and now we have two kids together. I am ready to get married but I don't know if he is. I tell him all the time that it is time to make a true commitment but he just dont understand. All I want to know what is the problem why is he stringing me along? How do I know it he even wants to marry me? Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Casually ask him if he sees himself getting married (don't say to you, just ask period). If he says no, you have your answer. If he say yes, ask him when.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): You've lived with him 7 years, you've had 2 of his kids - why does he NEED to marry you? What is he going to get with that?
You've trained him how to treat you, you've given him what most people wait for marriage to get, and you don't understand how to motivate him... I'm confused.
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (4 February 2010):
Look men are thick, thick headed creatures, I am one and I dont always know how thick headed i can be. Even given your lengthy history, men are terrified of committment and it has nothing to do with you. He obviously loves you and not getting married doesnt mean he loves you less. Im sure he does want to marry you but guys take poking and proding to get them to commit like that. Im not sure why the title and piece of paper scare us so bad but it does. Not to mention the ceremony. We know how important a nice wedding is to the woman we love and we want it to be as special as possible and we are afraid to disappoint. I guess what you should take a way from this is the men are afraid of the title not the woman, and his delay in marrying you is more likely due to fear of not giving you the wedding of your dreams.
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