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writes:I have just found out that my bf has being chatting a girl up on a social network site? He adds random girls every night all between the ages of 16-19 and they are tarty. He doesnt know any of them. He has added over 100 since january. Last night he deleted 33 of them and the lass I asked him about. He does this quite often adds a few then deletes some.He said he hasnt talked to her in months. She said he was telling her to get her 'sexy arse to his place'. He told me just to forget about it and dont beleive what people say.I have other problems with this guy too, I dont see him much. He tells me all the right things but he could be telling others that to.I know for a fact he isnt seeing any of these girls or meeting up with them.This is really getting to me. Should I be worried about this and say something or is this just a bit of flirting for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): i agree i just had this problem with a guy i was dsting on a free dating site . i thought he was wonderful and really into me than . i had a gut feeling he was up to no good . than the worse came we dated and thoguht he was really into me and than bam we delted our accounts guess what next ay he created a new one looking for someone long term and never said anything to me i was hurt . than to find out he was on multi dating sites . and he tried to come back and said he thought he was in love wit hme nobody does this stuff when there in love with some its head games . i blocked hi mfrom emailing and any contact i kicked hi mot the curb . i felt so relieve never except less from a guy
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reader, Yetilicious  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 Yeah, you should be worried. You're in a relationship, why is he spending time talking to other girls on a social networking site? He should be spending time with you. I wouldn't be able to trust someone like that, I would end it now before you have to deal with a whole lot of pain. It's only a matter of time before he finds someone on there that he really does want to meet and goes through with it...
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Look, if he gets into trouble then that's HIS problem, and nothing for you to worry about!Again, my recommendation is to DUMP this man. He doesn't deserve you - and YOU don't need such a headache!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Thanks for all the good answers. Please read my follow up I appreciate all your thoughts on this. Sorry to write this again guys i wasnt logged in. The thing that really worries me is this guy is a TEACHER and he must know by adding all these girls that this could lead him to something dangerous. Ive always thought he was chatting to these girls. This is how we met he added me then he popped up on chat, we were just chatting there was no sexy chat and then he was inboxing me but it was still just talk. I then gave him my number and we started textn and then we met up. I live really close to him but i didnt know him as he is 26 and I am 19. When he added me he only had 230 people on as friends. It looks like he never uses this site as he deletes these girls of his wall and never writes anything on it. I never see him that much only when it suits him and his family dont even know I exsist. I sometimes think he sits on there out of boredom and trawls for these type of girls. Or Jonas you could be right maybe the right one hasnt come along yet or no one give him the go ahead to meet up. I do know that he is killing my self esteem as he thinks every time i go out im coming on to lads. He doesnt go out either has his friends are all married with children so thats why I wonder if its just flirting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Thanks for all the good answers, could you please answer my follow up guys. The one thing that does worry me though is that he is a TEACHER and doing this could get him into serious trouble as one of these girls could turn this into somethng dangerous. Ive thought it for a while that he was giving them the 'sexy chat'. This is how we met over this social network site. He lives about 5mins walk away from me but i didnt know him as he is 26 and I am 19. When I first spoke to him he didnt give me any sexy chat we were just chatting then he started inboxing me but it was still just general talk. I then gave him my number and he started texten me and then we met up. He only had 230 friends on when he added me.It looks like he never uses this site as all these girls he adds he deletes them off his wall and he never writes anything on his wall. He has already got my self esteem on rock bottom. None of his family even know i exsist and I only see him when it suits him which isnt that often. But I do know he doesnt meet these girls or as you say jonas he could be waiting for one to give him the go ahead to meet up. I sometimes thinks he does this out of boredom or hes addicted to do it. See he has no friends to go out with anymore as they are all married with children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): I agree with Denise32. This sounds like it is only going to end in heartache. Why not save yourself some drama and cut ties with this guy now before he causes such emotional damage to you that your self esteem becomes wrecked enough that you accept pretty much anything he does?
Think about it for a minute. Dont you deserve better?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2011):
So why do you still consider this guy as your boyfriend?
Doesn't sound as if you're getting much out of it to me.
Is it really worth it to even think about continuing with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Hey girly! "She said he was telling her to get her 'sexy arse to his place'" says everything...
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