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writes:I have no problem with my parents.They don't care what's going on either way. But my girlfriend's parents absolutely HATE me. They have no issue with me coming over there, but I would love to spend some time with her at my house. The issue is, they don't want her over at my house (even with my parents home). So can you guys help me? We need something to tell her mom if she calls. (We can't say she's at a friends house, because then her mom will go there to pick her up).Also, please don't give me the "Don't lie to her parents. It'll only make things worse." reply please. Either reply to the question with the answer I need or don't.Her parents don't exactly like her either. Her mom will do things to her that mess with her head.IE -She wanted to go to her friends house, and her mom knew, so on the way home from the Mall, she turns onto her friends street, goes halfway down it (by this time my girlfriend is excited) and she goes "Wait this isn't the right street." and turns around. The thing is...her friends street is 6 streets away, there's no way she got them mixed up. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 January 2008):
 Find out why her parents feel this way, and address the issues. Running around hiding, all though it's not a good choice to lie, is no way to have a relationship. I agree with the other poster about her being over 18 and making her own decisions. Your age is in it's 30's but your question symbolizes a misrepresentation of your age. It would be much easier to answer this question if we knew the reason, and the ages of you and your girlfriend.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (19 January 2008):
Assuming that your girlfriend is over 18 why does she not move out of her parents place and set up in her own place? This surely would solve everything.
If they hate you so much why do they not mind you going over there?
It seems that it is her that they have the trust issues with and the problem is more them and her as opposed to them and you.
By what you say your girlfriend's parents sound possessive and when you go over there they can keep an eye on you both making sure their precious daughter doesn't get up to anything. They do not hate you - they hate who you are - a threat to them - somebody who might take their daughter away from them. This would especially apply if your girlfriend was around your age and especially if she was the only child or the last one left living at home with mum and dad.
I think she needs to have a chat with them and explain that they are going to have to cut her some slack, they are going to have to give her some freedoms otherwise they will drive her away ending up two old lonely people.
The solution lies within negociation upon this kind of line with your girlfriend being prepared to move out as a last resort if she has to.
I hope this has helped somewhat.
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