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writes:I've been trying to avoid these feelings because I know its way to soon to say them, and I still intend on not saying them now. I think I may be in love with my boyfriend. But that's not the bad part...we've never met, he has a daughter, only knew each other for over a month, and we've been dating for exactly 16 days. He's actually said it to me. I was kinda freaked out by it at first but not anymore. I feel like I'm falling in love with him. I know I know... because we haven't actually met makes the situation a bit more confusing. I know what I'm feeling is real..but also I know I'm young. I've decided to keep these feelings inside until we meet, and only then will I tell if my feelings are actually real. What I'm doing does it sound stupid of me? I know he's actually a real person because he knows a few of my acquaintances. At first when we talked I just thought that maybe because he wants loves he'll force "US", but I also want love myself. I thought at first because we both want someone we would use each other..but I actually feel the opposite. I feel that it just so happens we started talking. I know that I'll know once we meet...but it feels like as time goes by my feelings get deeper and now I'm just stuck...because what if we meet and this is just too good to be true? I always tell him this and he always says stop thinking negative. But I feel like things are going to well like a fairy tale, and fairy tales aren't real. Soo what do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, HeavensAngel +, writes (4 September 2010):
 I posted as .. he's a magnit to females and I don't trust him... wish you could find it and read it. I think it may be under long distant romances or online relations. It may help you. I agree with Phoebe . It can be very exciting in the beginning. There are many things I wish I had of added but thought it was too much. I so wish you luck and do please be careful! Don't wear your heart on your sleeve like I DO.. Blessings!!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 He sounds a LOT older than you for a start! If you keep putting so many expectations on the time that you meet, even if you do feel something, it won't measure up to these great expectations you both have. You're very young to be getting involved with a guy with kids... of course you haven't said much about him, is there a large age gap? Is he a young parent? Where is the mother of his child?
This sounds very suspect to me. 16 days and he's said "I love you", you've never met, and he doesn't seem to understand your concerns because he's brushing them aside and telling you how to think/feel ("stop thinking so negative")
Meet him, just go for a coffee or something. Consider him a friend instead of your boyfriend at first. If you think of him as your boyfriend you may feel sort of obligated to feel something for him. Think of going to meet a friend for coffee, see if you feel comfortable with him and if there's any spark between you. If you go expecting nothing, you can't be disappointed. Tell him you've got to be somewhere in an hour or so and make sure someone knows who you're meeting, where and when, just incase things don't go to plan. I know I sound paranoid, but this sounds suspect and the last thing we want is for you to get into trouble.
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