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writes:Besides becoming more popular, has online dating changed somehow over the last 3 years? I've done the online dating thing on and off for a few years and if I was interested in my dates had about a 25% success ratio, meaning multiple dates, relationships, sex...I started again about 6 months ago. Have been on many first dates. Of the ones I was interested in, I had initial success on the first date including kissing or expressed interest on about 15 dates. However, I have had 0% success after the first date. Meaning, not even a second date. I've done the same things I did before with no problems. Now, when I think just about every woman is interested, apparently she's not...Assuming I'm doing the same things that I've done in the past with much success, what gives??
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reader, Scorpio1112 +, writes (11 July 2010):
Scorpio1112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone with some great insight. You all make good points.
Anti - gotta give you extra props. You're like the online dating guru, lol!! and your answers are perfectly logical. And I do think in the past I was more of an A**hole so to speak, where as now, I'm much more open and honest. Sign of maturity?? Anyway, before... more women. Now... not so much, lol!!
BTW - I'm on Match. I tried the Chemistry site as well. But think it's a load of BS with their matching system.
-Scorpio
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 The ratio of men to women is 20:1. So there are 19 other guys competing for every 1 gal who's advertising on the net.
Add to that the pros and webcammers who are gold-digging for cash, and it complicates things tremendously.
You have to separate the BS'ers from the real thing. Its tough because its hard to know anyone you meet on line until you've spent a great deal of time with them and see how they live their life.
And as antiasexual pointed out, it could be your profile is overly optimistic or not necessarily accurate. Now I say "it could be" or you're finding women who are just not material for you.
Also the quality of the dating site you go with matters too. If its a meat market, then you're lucky if you have a first date, and even then you're lucky if you can get a 2nd date out of it.
Try other avenues and start looking for better out there. Its just harder.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Actually, I have the same problem that you're describing. Sometimes I don't even get to a first date, we never get past the initial small talk online.
You don't say which dating site you're trying, but I would suggest eHarmony, if you're looking for a match based on compatibility. I'm not promoting it in any way, but it does match you up with other users based on how compatible you are, rather than just tossing a random sampling at you based on ZIP/postal code.
In the end, it's all about compatibility, I think. Maybe the whole "opposites attract" thing is what works for you. Truth is, doesn't matter how you meet your soul mate, whether online or in a bar or somewhere else. When you meet them, you'll know.
masq
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