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writes:i'm a nice guy, caring and all that, i dont act like a d*ck, i have respect for people i'm modest, you get my point anyway, i recently found out that my girlfriend has kissed some other boy anyway, you know that song, "what goes around comes around" yeah well basically, she doesnt know that i know yet, and i'm looking at some ways to get back at her, hurt her like she hurt me, that dont involve me kissing someone, because i dont believe 2 wrongs make a right. Please if you have any idea Thanks.
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reader, Sorry miss  +, writes (7 May 2010):
Gandhi said "an eye for an eye" makes the hole world blind" you can kinda relate this to your problem don't try to get her back. Confront her about it and talk to her about it, maybe you have everything wrong. But getting revenge isn't always the right choice trust me talk to her about and see what she says. Maybe she was curious in seeing if you are truly the only one for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): If you are in love with her, all the revenge in the world will not ease your pain. It's best to leave her and put all your engery in recovering and understanding how you got involved with a person like her and how not to do it again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Break up with her and leave. What goes around comes around by the universe itself, no need for you to get bothered by it. She'll get what she deserves, no worries. Just leave and don't waste more time or energy on her.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Aw come on, salt in the sugar bowl is really funny and you know it Puzzle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Planned set ups and pranks, out of revenge, are never beneficial, and you're right, what goes around comes around, and karma's a real...you know.., so I wouldn't think about doing anything to get back at her. You may not have seen enough stuff to believe that yet in life, but it's true, and you'll only find a happy resolve to this if you don't do anything wrong in return. Take the peaceful path, and karma can only come back on her in the end. An eye for an eye is old school, and Christianity is one example of that, where it came into play to change that way of life, where people now have the ability to forgive if they decide to. Obviously, your girlfriend did something that hurt you, but you have the ability to either forgive her or leave her, which is alot of power in itself, for you to hold. You feel that sense of power, now, and wish to abuse it, which is natural, just like most of the people that get handed any new power will abuse it when they're not quite used to having it. Think of a political figure or celebrity who abused their power in the past to act rotten, and one who picked the peaceful approach, and look at how stupid the bad ones made themselves look.. It's okay to feel hurt, but it's not okay to act on negative energy or emotions. Just let it go, and if you can't forgive her, leave her, and you'll feel better either way, but be the better person and don't carry on towards her or try to bring either one of you down. If you feel the need to ask her 100 questions and interrogate her, take a break from her instead, and that's sufficient enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): I so know where you are coming from. Honestly, I don't think there is an acceptable reason for kissing another guy. "Oh, I had too much to drink, I'm so sorry..." You need to be able to trust that your woman has good judgment. So next time she'll sleep with someone and blame it on her being drunk...
Just be careful. I understand the urge to hurt her back. It's human, it's natural. But that's what separates you and her. The best thing I can think of is tell her you know. That's it and see how she reacts. If her guilt is eating away at her she will admit it, but if she just denies it then tell her you know about her kissing a boy.
If she loves you she will be kissing your butt. And drag that out as long as you possibly can, then tell her you don't want anything to do with her. then start dating someone else where you know she'll be.
WARNING: Don't start dating someone until you are over her. It's not fair to the other person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): 'I dont act like a d**k, but I want revenge' Dude, that's acting like a d**k. So you'd be just as bad as her if you got revenge plus everyone would find out you did whatever you're planning and you'd lose the moral high ground.
Talk to her and tell her you found out and see what happens. See what her reaction is and how she feels about what has happened, if you really are the nice3 guy you claim to be then you'll give her a chance to explain herself.
If her explanation is unacceptable then break up with her and let people know she's a cheat.
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reader, raiders +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Put the past behind you if you are planning on staying with her. If the thought of her kissing another boy is to much to handle than maybe it will be best to let her go. I suggest you tell her that you know she cheated, she will feel caught and will be kissing your butt, other than that keep her or leave her.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 May 2010):
Put salt in her sugar bowl.
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reader, rcn +, writes (5 May 2010):
 In this situation two wrongs compile the issues that need be dealt with. Remember, revenge will only define that action as who you are.
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