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anonymous
writes:What wil u do if u discover beyond reasonable doubt that ur husband is cheating on you? I gave up so many things i hold so dear,jst to keep my marriage. I was using my husband's mobile phone wen i discovered a txt message he sent to another woman whom he addressed as a man,that he loves her so much and enjoy lovemaking with her. I took the number,hid my number n cald her n i heard a woman's voice. What do i do? Im goin crazy. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 Ask him if he wishes to remain married. Let him know that his answer doesn't make sense, but if it's true, you'd be happy to call this girl and verify his story. Generally if it doesn't sound true, it isn't. Not saying there isn't any at all, but I don't know any guys that will borrow a cell phone to text a girlfriend. In my view that sounds out of character.
This is your marriage. You have the right to protect it and demand that you be told the truth. A marriage should not be one of deceit and lies. Any relationship should be one of respect, trust and being truthful. So ask him if he wants to be married to you or is it time to consider a change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTanx 4 all ur contributions. I askd and he bluntly denied. He said his friend(who is single), used his phone to send the txt to his galfriend. But i knw he's lyin. Tnx
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reader, lynn1977 +, writes (3 May 2010):
I would confront him about it. He obviously is and he may try to deny it. I would leave your husband. You can try to work
things out and go to counseling, but I am a firm believer that
once a cheater always a cheater. Besides, How could you ever trust him again. You need to confront him. I wish you well.
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 May 2010):
1 st confront him. Then go from there. You'll be able to tell in his behavior which direction to take next. If you can forgive and work on your marriage, or if it's time to hang it up and say goodbye. The main thing, get it done so you'll stop driving yourself crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): well its not like men normally own up to it but you could always just come out and ask him or have a talk with the other woman.I did and she was very honest and told me everything .Maybe you will get lucky also and if he is I would tell him you wanted a divorce and see what he said .Might be that he is willing to go to marriage counseling or might be that he says he wants a divorce also.Which is what happened to me after 28 yr marriage .Good Luck Xxxx
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 You confront him and ask him if he still wants to work at your marriage, because he can't have it both ways. Give him a time limit to leave that woman or you would get a divorce.
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