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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I broke up with my ex bf about 3 years ago I still have strong feeling for him but I no nothing with happen again. He now has a new gf and I have started slowly but finally moving on but lately I have been getting messages from him laughing,joking and being nice. And he keeps asking me to meet him and then the feelings keep coming back I hav asked him to choose me or his gf. I am fine with him wanting to be with her he just needs to choose and let me move on. I am getting messages now asking me to meet him and to do stuff with him . What can I say or do that will either make him realise he needs to choose one of us or for him to realise he has lost me and I am moving on? Thanks for reading just feel like I am bandin my head against a brick wall
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (29 July 2013):
You've already asked him and he's already made his choice (he wants you both). You'll have to either see him while he's seeing someone else or leave him.... you can't always expect other people to make the choice for you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 July 2013):
 What you have to do - or say - is to YOURSELF... and it is: "Why would I bother with this charade?"
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): He's just keeping you on a string. You dumped him, but it boosts his ego to know you still have it for him. He has no intention of leaving his girlfriend. He is manipulating you by your residual feelings for him. He knows you can't move on and he likes rubbing you nose in the fact that he found someone else after you dumped him.
You went for the bait, and he's getting his pay-back.
The only choice to be made here is when will you decide to let him go?
Nothing is holding you back but your false hope. Too late for regret. Sometimes you need to think before you make the decision to let someone go.
If he was abusive, controlling,inflexible, or a cheat.
Trust your decision to let him go. He is no longer there to hold you back. You deserve your freedom.
When you initiate the breakup, you should cut all ties until you can live with your decision. No second-guessing or relapses. Re-examine all the reasons you broke up and refresh your memory.
Read this article:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-does-the-dumper-feel-after-dumping-you.html
Which of these describes how you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013):
Listen, he is playing cat and mouse with you. He has no intention of giving up his current gf ( believe me, she no nowt about this) . He is toying with your affections for him and hoping that these feelings will lead you to meeting with him and him getting into your pants..
So what do you do.. Tell him to duck off and take a very long walk of the nearest shots pier.. Tell him haha if he would be so lucky to get you back. And in his fantasys .
I mean who would want back with such a low down creep?? Surely sweetie you think more of yourself than to succumb to such low manipulation . .
Think yourself lucky you are not with him and get on and enjoy your life . X
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