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30-35,
*ella.mia
writes:Let me just start off that i met this guy in 2009 on youtube and we used to talk all the time about music and polotics. It was just 2 people talkign about things we loved. He lives in Ireland and i live in Canada. It was obvious we had strong chemistry but knew it couldnt go anywhere because of our distance. It was really hard for me because i really liked him/ I never met a man like him before. Dont get me wrong i can get men here where i live but they didnt strike me like this guy.. And i know that when u meet someone in person its different that on the internet, but for us it was different because we would talk on webcam and could see eachothers reactions when speaking about stuff. Anyways, we spoke from may 2009 to january 2010. I saw on his facebook that he had a girlfriend. We always spoke about how much we liked eachother and how we wished we could be with one another. He was literally all i could think about ,and just one of the most beautiful. kind and talented guys i ever spoke to. I saw a picture he was tagged in that said 'me and my bf' and it was brand new. He wasnt online and i couldnt wait to talk to him since i was freaking out, so i sent him an email that i cant talk to him anymore and that its unhealthy for me to get my hopes up for something that will never happen. Of course i cant blame him for dating a girl, i mean i was dating too but i just wanted the truth..So after that i cut all ties with him, its a year later and yes i still think about him. I mean i dont thin about him all the time, but he does come across my mind since i left things up in the air with him and he never contacted me after that email. SO the other day he was just rushing through my mind and i felt i needed to speak to him so i re-added him on facebook. He right away said hi to me and started appologizing before i could ask him how he was doing. I told him that its over with and he told me that the girl was literally 2 days before i wrote that letter when he started dating her. I told him everything i didnt and was too scared to say when i spoke to him yesterday. I really do believe him. He also said that he wanted to add me but never could because i blocked him on everything and that the only thing that he could see if i was ok and alive was on my youtube profile picture. He told me that he still thinks about me and always did really like me but we lived so far away so nothing could happen. And just like in 2009 he still to this day wants to see me. And now its for sure that hes coming to canada for other reasons in may but wants to see me too. I thought we would never speak again but its like fate has brought us back together, and i dont know where anything is going to go but all i know is that my feelings havent changed for him and i think its the same for him.. I just dont know if this is a good idea ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): Take it easy. The best thing is to stay in contact until he comes to see you. Nothing can progress while it is an online relationship. Of course dating in the real world is always going to be an issue - as you'd be pretty sad if you wasted years on a person who only exists for you in web world. So try and control your emotions. He will go out and about - pics will be on Facebook, he has to live a life. I don't think you can be exclusive with someone you have not met in real life. So it is great that you two can meet up, only then will you be able to take things further.
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