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writes:I met my boyfriend 10 months ago. We were doing really good. I even moved out of my parents house to be able to see him more often. The week i moved out, it turned out that he got a job in Miami. (over 1hr and 30 minutes away) We see each other less, he claims that he loves me and that he is crazy about me. I personally feel like he has been slacking on us, that he is getting lazy and confortable. I find myself doing all the driving, sleeping over instead of him sleeping over my house. at first he was driving to miami, now it turns out he is staying with his friends and just leased an appartment down south. He says that he should be near work. Long story short, i love him so much ...i dont want to lose him or give up on him but i am starting to get hurt. He's 26 years old, i understand his career is a huge deal and i dont want to be selfish, but it seems like i do all the work and all my energy and love is running out, i find myself lonely all the time and crying everyday. everytime i tell him he acts surprised almost as he didnt have a clue. He's an only child im sure he is used to the attention but im not his mother ...im his girlfriend...i give everything for him and go above and beyond but i dont know where we are going with this?Should i stick around? Should I let him go? what do i do to make him see that he is losing me?HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI tried speaking to him and telling him that I love him but I am not happy and that I am getting hurt. He says he feels like i am breakin up with him, and that he doesnt see anything wrong. Im trying to figure out the best way to simply just tell him to just appreciate me a little more. I told him i need 50/50 in the relationship.
He doesnt text me like before or even calls me like he used too.
Everytime I bring it up he says im hormonal! Is insane...he builds walls up just to avoid talking about the subject.
How should I approach it?
Should I just stop being so giving and see if he wakes up and changes.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 The best way to let someone know that s/he's losing you is simply to tell that, in a calm but serious manner.
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