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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months and i love her with all my heart. I trust her entirely and know she would never stray. A few days ago, she was contacted by a male friend she used to work with and she arranged to meet him at her old place of work, which we did so together. I know this lad had fancied my girlfriend and she had shown me messages he sent from before we were together. She chatted with him while I talked to a friend of mine, and then my girlfriend and I sat together and had a drink. Later that evening, her friend text her with a series of messages much like the ones from before we were together, saying "can I have a kiss next time?" and asking for intimate pictures. He had clearly seen my girlfriend and I together, and I found this highly disrespectful to both me and my girlfriend, and it got me very angry that he had the nerve to send them. As i say, I know my girlfriend wouldn't stray, but what should i do about this friend and his messages?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo answer Twist Of Fate's questions:
The original texts she showed me were on an old phone when we were discussing our pasts (something i hate hearing about, but honesty is the way forward), and I was with her at the time he recently text her, so she showed me them as she received them.
It's not that I'm threatened by him. It was more I was angry at the fact he had the nerve to text my girlfriend what he did when he clearly knew she was with me. And anger is not something i like feeling, or my girlfriend likes me feeling.
She has since texted him telling him to look elsewhere, and she said he's not text back since, so hopefully he may have got the message.
Thanks for the advice guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): Yes don't do anything. If you do, then this guy will become the focus of attention in your relationship and this will only enhance his standing in your girlfriends eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): I wouldnt do anything too serious... yet! But if it happens again i would confront him, this doesnt mean physicaly. Just make him aware of how he is making you feel and warn him to back off.
This guy clearly doesnt care that she has a boyfriend and it needs to be stopped early on...
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